Hello Everybody!!

I recently got married and now am having problems with my Spouse. Please give your comments/opinions/suggestions to show me the path to a happier life with my spouse.

Here's the situation so far:

My marriage is an arranged marriage (arrange marriages are common in the world I come from). Initially, we were hooked up by our parents, we exchanged emails for few months before we decided to meet. We met few times to find out that we like each other and that we have similar values, lifestyles etc etc.... and we got engaged.

After engagement(during courtship), she kept talking about her likes/dislikes, she every now and then mentioned how she gets along very well with guys more than girls and that she has lots of guy friends. To be honest....i didn't like this fact, but I felt that it is immature to react on something like this, so I never told her that I don't appreciate her telling me about her guy friends so many times. She would tell stories of her guy friends quite often during the courtship.

Finally we got married and the trend continued....she kept telling stories of her guy friends almost every alternate day. We also went to meet one of her guy family-friend at a public place where she cross-hand hugged her friend and kissed him on the cheek in front of me, I didnt like this (Am I being possessive?) but I kept quite because she was very happy at that moment.

I ran out of patience one day and told her that I am not interested in listening her guy friends stories. She didn't like this fact but never argued on this either.

One fine day I found out about her relationships before marriage. I also found out that she was still in touch with her ex-bf's, and that she had invited one of them to our marriage without even telling me! She says that these guys are just friends now. I saw one of her emails to ex-bf in which she had mentioned to her ex BF's that I am possessive!

Now, the problem I am facing is:

1) Was I wrong in asking her not to talk about her guy friends so much? Am i being too possessive by doing so?
2) Was she right in inviting her ex-BF in our marriage without telling me?
3) Is she right being in touch with her ex-bf's which she says are just friends now? and discussing about me with them?
4) Am I too possessive or she is not being fair to this marriage?


I feel that she is trust able but I cant get myself to trust her because of all these reasons.

At times I feel very insecure, get very angry. I even told her that I hate her for all these things.

I fought with her one day and after that she stopped talking about her guy friends and keeping any contacts with her ex-bf's.

I want to be fair to her,I have been very fair to this marriage, took good care of her, but i cant get this hatred out of me. I really like her but sometimes her personality/character/past just fills me with hatred and it becomes excruciatingly painful!!

PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks