Ok, where to begin? My Husband and I have been married for 3 years. He recently got out of the military after 7 years of service. He was left with PTSD and it's been a complete up hill battle ever since he arrived home from his last deployment. We've sought counseling within as well as outside of the military but he seems to have completely changed from the man that I once knew. The kind and gentle man that I married has been replaced my a bitter, jaded and angry man.

I know that much of this is not his fault. War changes people, right? I have suggusted that he continue counseling with or without me but he refuses. I have begged him to go see a Dr. and get on some type of "happy pill," but he doesn't think he needs them.

He came from a terrible home with a Father who treated him very badly. He constantly catches himself doing the same things his Father did to him as a child to our children. He knows that he has a problem but yet refuses to fix it? I feel as though I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. I don't want to give up on him but at what point do you say enough is enough?

We have seperated twice in the past year and in that time he did attempt to make changes but he didn't follow through with the changes once I came home. Friends and family have told me that perhaps I need to leave for a longer period of time until he really has a chance to change but I fear that no amount of time will change him back into the man that I once married.

I have been honestly contemplating divorce for well over a year now but something is holding me back from making MY decision to be happy again. How do you not worry about your spouse in the divorce process?