Hey Preston I suggest that you start to take charge of your life and decide what you need and want from this marriage. To do that you need to take responsibility for the fact that what your wife may want might be different from what you want.

Right now you don’t have a marriage. What you have are two people who are neither willing to make a commitment to make this marriage work nor to end it. Its of no use of having a marriage without commitment. Sit down with ur wife and talk ur heart out. Take her into confidence and ask her clearly if she is willing to live with u with her heart beating only for you and no one else.

preston, do you have any other suspicisons other than she is not returning your calls. If she is going to councelling than im not sure if she would be cheating, but i cant say that as i dont know all the facts. Talk to her and tell her what you want. If she doesnt want the same thing then mabye you would have no choice then to ask for a seperation. Mabye also bring these things up when you goto councelling, and see what her replies are like with you threre/

If you are seperated i dont believe it is called cheating...

Are you sperated? living in different houses? than why are you in councelling?