My Fiance' and I just recently moved in together. We have 4 children my boys are 14 and 6 and his are 13 (girl) and 9. She is the oly girl in the family besides myself and in the begining I felt like I related to her more because of this. But latley I am not sure. She has thrown a few tantrums and hit my older son who just held her wrists and said that she is crazy. But the real problem that we are having stems from her mother. The mother lives out of state and will not speak with her father or myself at all other than when she asks about picking the kids up for her holidays. She has really been playing on the kids, last year it was the 9yr old and he wanted to stay with his mom. This year it is the 13 yr old, she is giving her riding lessons, cell phone, promising to go to Hawaii and let her dye her hair Pink. My Fiance' has physical custody of the kids but the mother seems to think that she can just keep them if she wants. I am willing to stand by my Fiance' and fight for her but even if we do and we win she may resent us for not letting her live with her mother. I feel that if we do allow it she will want to come back in a year because the way her mother has been treating her this summer is not her normal behavior but I can not allow her bounce in and out of my household.