hi everyone, this actually could be a very long thread, as I have a history of 10 years with my husband. Our relationship has been getting worse year after year. We have a young child now and I found out I am pregnant about 4 months ago. At first I thought this would strengthen our marraige (the pregnancy was not planned, but very welcomed by me!!), but I now see that my husband is still the self centered man I always knew he was. I could go on for days with elaborate stories of his selfish acts towards me and our toddler, but I won't bore you with all the horrible details unless you'd like to hear some examples. I am nervous about the health of our unborn baby and the well being of our toddler. The doctor said the baby is growing perfectly and is healty, which I am so very thankful for.

What do I do? I am so unhappy, and he tells me I am a terrible wife. I work full time, take care of our daughter and our home. We could not afford the lifestyle we have without my career. He must think there are 2 of me, because somehow I manage to bring home the bacon and cook it, too. There is where the problem starts. He needs a maid and a prostitute, not a wife. He needs someone to cook, clean, be beautiful, have sex 3-4 times a week, take care of the home and children, and work to afford a lifestyle that is beyond our means. I have tried to hire help, but it never seems to be enough. He is gone constantly. He hardly spends any time with his child now. Maybe 10 minutes a day or so.
And it's not that I don't want sex, it's just that he has hurt me so much (emotionally) that I don't even want to be with him in that sense anymore. It's an awful feeling for me as I am sure it is for him, too. He is very handsome and on the outside, we "look" like the perfect couple. He had threatened me with divorce so many times just so he'll get his way. When I try to explain my feelings, he says I am too sensitive and emotional. I can't help feeling this way. He says I need counceling. I've gone before. I've even tried to get him to go with me. He says no one will tell him how to act. He treats me like an employee and talks to me like I'm 5 years old. I run a major corporation and stand in front of hundreds giving presentations. How does this one man make me feel so worthless and useless? I feel like I annoy him so much.
You must think it's the pregnancy talking here. Any thoughts? I am doing all that I do by myself anyway, so why would I need to stay married and endure more stress while I go through this pregnancy? I just want to keep the children healthy and happy.
I am stressed and broken....