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Old 05-04-2007, 10:09 AM
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I am KaYmana and I have a 9 years old daughter . I have 10 years of marriage and I just found something terrible about my husband...

I found that he was a disgusting man and he had no feelings for his own daughter, he is a pedophile and incestuous upon our own daughter!!

I could not believe my ears when my daughter told me this. The man I married is an incestuous person.

I broke down completely when I heard that and cried my heart out. I coul not imagine that he could do such a dirty thing on my daughter.

I am totally desperate right now and I can't understand what to do. I loved him but now there is only disgust and repulsion for him. It is as if I never knew him!!

I don't work and I fear if I go to the police, everyone comes to know about what happened to my daughter and she becomes more traumatise by what is happening.

She has lost all interest in the things she liked doing. The worst thing in that is that I was present at home preparing diner when this happened.

I told my husband about it and he told me that I was mad !!
What must I do, I know that my daughter will not lie to me, but what must I do,she told me about all these when i questioned her once about the change in her behaviour and she started crying and telling me that her father hurt her and she does not want to stay with him alone.

I told her why she did not told me earlier and she told me that she was afraid of my reaction.

My daughter and I are sleeping in a seperate room and and I don't sleep with my husband.

I am dependent on my husband and I have never work before and this is one of the reason why I am afraid of leaving my husband.

Moreover, I am not well educated because I did not complete my education so it will be difficult for me to get a job.

I can't look at his face and he behaves as if nothing has happened!!

What must I do?? Please advise me?? Tell me which door I should knock at??

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Old 05-07-2007, 09:33 AM
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WOW KAYMANA...YOU HAVE TO GO TO DENOUNCE YOUR HUSBAND...GOD DAMN IT!!! YOU MUST THINK ABOUT WHAT YOUR CHILD MUST BE GOING THROUGH WHEN SHE SEES HER FATHER SHE MUST BE REALLY SCARED!!!!

PLEASE YOU HAVE TO STOP THIS!!!EVEN IF YOU ARE DEPENDENT UPON YOUR HUSBAND THAT DOESNOT MEANS THAT YOU HAVE TO TOLERATE THE DIRTY THINGS WHICH THIS B***** DOES!!!!!

REACT AND FILE A CASE AT THE POLICE STATION!!!THERE ARE CHILD COUNSELLORS TO HELP YOUR DAUGHTER COME OUT OF THIS TRAUMA!!!

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Old 05-07-2007, 09:39 AM
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Yeah, goth06 is right you have to denounce your hubby because what he did is definitely wrong and should be punished for that...as far as prejudice is concerned you should not take that into consideration because you only have to keep it secret and away from the media!!!
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Old 05-10-2007, 01:06 AM
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I agree ASAP!!!!
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Old 06-14-2007, 11:33 AM
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your daughter must be going through so much pain… be supportive of her and shower her with love. i’m sure love can help her and will help her overcome. maybe a doctor for child can help her. or maybe a shrink. as for your husband he really needs to go to a counselor and shrink and therapist.
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