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Old 05-03-2007, 04:45 PM
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he means so much to me.
i don't think he even knows. i don't think he even knows that i consider him as such an important part of my life.
he means so much to me.

i've known him for quite a few years now. the first time we met, we didn't connect at all and he was the silent type, not the kind to start a friendship just like that and i was the fussy kind when it came to friends, i pick carefully.

but after some time, we got to know each other and it hit off so smoothly. since then, he has been my confidant. a support. someone i could rely on.

he is leaving the country in three weeks. he's got a contract with an overseas branch of his company. i feel so discouraged, sad, i have no words to express this emptiness i'm feeling inside. and a fear too. the fear of never seeing him again. the fear of losing the best of friends.

he has been hurt a lot in his life and he sees this new job as an opportunity for him to start life anew, away from here. and i'm glad for him... but, it's just so hard to understand.

i'm crying right now. i just don't want to lose him. he means so much to me, it hurts so much to know that in just 3 weeks, he won't be here anymore

this is depressing me badly.

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Old 05-04-2007, 08:17 AM
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HIII FIRST END!!! HEY CHEER UP BUDDY!! I CAN UNDERSTAND THAT TO HAVE YOUR BEST FRIEND GOING FAR AWAY FROM YOU IS DEPRESSING AND I FEEL SAD FOR YOU BUT YOU KNOW EVEN IF HE IS GONE THAT DOES NOT MEANS THAT YOU WON'T HAVE ANY CONTACT WITH HIM!! THERE ARE LOADS OF MEANS OF COMMUNICATION TODAY LIKE THE INTERNET, TELEPHONE AND SO ON!! AND MOREOVER WE ARE HERE AND ALTHOUGH WE WON'T BE ABLE TO REPLACE YOUR BEST FRIEND WE CAN STILL SUPPORT YOU AND BE YOUR VIRTUAL FRIEND !!!
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Old 05-04-2007, 08:24 AM
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My dear First end,
You seem to be very sad and I understand you,having your best friend going far away from you is not something easy. You have to be courageous and think that it will be in his advantage and that it concerns his job so he cannot otherwise. You have to tell yourself that it is professional and he cannot do anything about it. However when you can still visit him abroad when you can and vice-versa!!

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Old 05-04-2007, 12:00 PM
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he means so much to me.
i don't think he even knows. i don't think he even knows that i consider him as such an important part of my life.
he means so much to me.
how is it that he doesn't know he means so much to you? you have never told him? why?

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but after some time, we got to know each other and it hit off so smoothly. since then, he has been my confidant. a support. someone i could rely on.
if he means so much to you and you share so much with him, surely he has realised that he must mean a lot to you, isn't it?

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he is leaving the country in three weeks. he's got a contract with an overseas branch of his company. i feel so discouraged, sad, i have no words to express this emptiness i'm feeling inside. and a fear too. the fear of never seeing him again. the fear of losing the best of friends.
i presume that he doesn't know you feel this way but as Goth06 pointed out, there are so many ways of keeping in touch now. the world is just a big global village right?

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i'm crying right now. i just don't want to lose him. he means so much to me, it hurts so much to know that in just 3 weeks, he won't be here anymore

this is depressing me badly.
maybe you should tell him how you are feeling. that might help you alleviate the pain, don't you think so?
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Old 05-04-2007, 12:10 PM
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Hi there! Sorry I edited my post...LOL...I hadn't seen SIA's reply, I asked the same questions as her...
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Old 05-04-2007, 12:27 PM
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hi everybody. thank you so much for the replies. it means a lot to me.

it will be very difficult to keep in touch with him. both our respective jobs are very demanding and we each have our own personal issues to deal with. this is the kind of friendship which is prone to end with distance.

i know he is leaving for his own good and i am very happy about that, but he has been a support for me through hard times, times when no one was there for me or no one would understand me, he did.

i did tell him once that he means a lot to me, but it is probable that he didn't believe me and maybe he does realise that i consider him as an important part of my life but he might deny it within himself.

there have been certain events which cropped up between us which will make it difficult for me to express my feelings to him. reason why i feel i cannot tell him how much it hurts to see him go.

i will not be able to spend as much time as i would have liked with him for these last 3 weeks. my work is very demanding and an important project has just cropped up, which i am supervising. this project will last for more than a month and it started last week, there is no way of getting out of it now.

i guess i'll just have to let him go.
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Old 05-04-2007, 12:35 PM
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Okay! Since you've already given up...
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Old 05-04-2007, 12:56 PM
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come on Colourblind, she feels discouraged, i don't think we should encourage that feeling of hers

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there have been certain events which cropped up between us which will make it difficult for me to express my feelings to him. reason why i feel i cannot tell him how much it hurts to see him go.
it seems that this is what is blocking you, emotionally and mentally. not allowing you to approach him.

were those events that serious that they are coming in the way of you expressing your pain to your best friend?
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Old 05-07-2007, 07:05 AM
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Okay sorry SIA, you know how I can be a badass sometimes...my apologies TFE. But when, when you say

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i guess i'll just have to let him go.
You do seem like you've already given up...I would like to know you answer to SIA's question, if it's not too personal of course.

I was just thinking about something funny though...Could those things that cropped up between the two of you explain why you're not sure if he knows how important he is to you? What did he say about his departure? He must have said something about leaving you right...

There's something that's been bugging me though; you said you're depressed cause you don't know if he knows how much you care about him and you're afraid to lose him. But what about his feelings? Do you know how he feels about you and about all this?

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i did tell him once that he means a lot to me, but it is probable that he didn't believe me and maybe he does realise that i consider him as an important part of my life but he might deny it within himself.
Huh...why would be deny that?

P.S: There's no way I'll buy this work BS.
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And yet it would never die,
It would be reborn each time
The cat grew tired of its life
But still it wouldn't die
Then one day the cat met a female cat
It fell in love for the first time in 1000 lives
For once since a long time, it felt good to be alive
Until one day the female cat left him
She disappeared from its life
Drunk in sadness, the cat laid down
And it died a slow death
And was never reborn again

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Old 05-07-2007, 11:46 AM
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hey there Colourblind.

there's no need to apologise. she's just discouraged and i think if we encourage that feeling of hers she'll really give up but if we try the contrary she might be able to talk to her best friend

i didn't really understand why you say this

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