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11-28-2006, 08:29 AM
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This past weekend, I had my children (son,daughter) for the first time in four years. They spent the whole weekend!!
 My son acts just as his father does  and I felt like I had failed as a mother! My daughter told me that she did not want to leave? She said she loves me so much! But my son felt otherwise, he was just brutal towards me for leaving him with his father.My daughter called me as soon as she walked in the door from school, and told me "Mom, I really, really, really miss you" I was shocked that she is telling me this after being gone for four years, but it made me feel like a million bucks also! I am scared to ask her if she would like to come live with me, because if it gets back to her dad he will have a cow! He would be very mad at me and also at her! I guess what I am wondering is do you think she wants the option of being with me? I do not know how to make that offer to her, this is all new to the both of us and I do not want to scare her away? She has been there with her dad and brother for a while, he has made them believe that I have been no where around all along refusing to let me talk to or see them. It has broken my heart. I only want them to feel they are welcome to be with me if that is what they choose. They are my world and it hurts me to know that she is so upset now that she has spent time with me. Her dad said that she has been crying alot more than she normally does? HE thinks that she is doing that because she was around me?? I am just confused, any advice would help! 
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11-28-2006, 01:30 PM
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i think that you must not be too quick in inviting your daughter to live with you.I will advise you to invite your children more often and see their reactions whether it changes or stay the same.If your daughter wants to come to live with you it will be seen in her reactions.You should not hurry anything and take time to build the relationship first.
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12-01-2006, 11:09 AM
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Hi avant. Have you found a way to deal with it?
First you must make her see that her father lied about you not wanting to see them around. But don't tell her directly that her father has lied, tell her that you've been thinking about them all the time, and that you love them, and show it too, so that they feel it. Now they'll tend to say "ok dad told us you never cared to see or know about us", then tell them to honestly realize who they must believe...Let them the choice, and on your side, be as sincere as possible... You show them you care and love them, you will hae their trust. You have an advantage too, they miss you. Make them feel you miss them too... It will be more easy you'll see to convince your daughter to stay with you...
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