the most important thing is to make sure that you keep yourself busy and do not remain idle. as if you will remain idle you will think of your divorce ad you will get depressed. most importantly you should make sure that you do not leave your social life aart as it will help you get out of your divorce and help you get back to your normal life once again.

You should try to find new activities to help you overcome this feeling of loneliness.If you did not work previously you could try to go and find a job not just for the sake of money but for a change.You could also try to make new friends by joining a club.
If you have the financial means you could try to go abroad for some holidays.

After a divorce, one should not keep on thinking about all that happened to him/her recently, why, how or what made it go that way, what could have been done to make things better..etc... Those types of questions which can be very bugging and useless when all is already over.
One should have his/her family and true friends around. These are the persons who can keep one's mind busy, encourage one to go out and help to think about other things.

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I agree with Heaven that once someone has gone through a divorce he should not be focusing on what has happened but on what will happen in the future.It is true that it will be difficult to do as if nothing happens but you must try because this could end up spoiling your life and make you lose your joy of living.

I have not been married yet, but i think that loneliness after a divorce is a very tough thing to deal with. I only wish that i never ever divorce in my whole life, but i want to get married. I hope that i will come here someday and i will say that this forum helped me a lot to avoid problems in my relationship

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I guess it depends on the person. Some might be enjoying the "temporary" loneliness and when they feel they are ready to go into some other relationship, they move on to it. Some might not bear loneliness and have to go on directly to some other relationship. I think the first weeks/period after divorce are very tough to live and that most prefer being on their own.

Yeah it's very tough for all members of the family ... even more for children ... Parents can work this out more easily

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Originally Posted by Capuccino Yeah it's very tough for all members of the family ... even more for children ... Parents can work this out more easily

Yeah because parents have somehow already prepared themselves to the thing. It is more of a shock and stays as such longer for the children. They may not be strong enough to cope with their new life situation right away.

but what makes me mad about all this is that adults know that they should think about this all the time. Whenever there's a problem in their couple, they are aware of it ... but they always say that the problem will fade on its own with time which is not true ...

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