Hi again Marylin. Well, it's never easy to deal with a teenager + with your post-divorce period + your child's very negative reaction to your divorce!! So I can imagine how painful it might be for you to be living all this right now. I would advise you to try showing him that whatever be the quantity of alcohol he takes in, his and your problems are not solved anyway. He actually manages to forget about his problems on the moment he drinks and ok you want some time after too? But tell him that his problems are still what they are even though he has forgotten them for some time

kids are very affected by the divorce of their parents. i suggest you take him to a doctor and for counselling. as if you talk to him he will not understand. he needs professional help and you must give that to him as soon as possible before things get worse.

I think that he has been affected by your divorce a lot.You may have not notice it but it is him who is suffering and that is why he is seeking refuge in alcoholic drinks.I think that you should take him to a counselor and also to rehab center which could help him with his distress and with his alcoholic problem.

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Ok thank you for the info.......
I don't think she didn't notice

But yes counselling could be a solution but you can try to explain things to him yourself, before sending him to a counselor. After all he has more trust in you than someone he doesn't know. And you know teenagers....they are far from highly willing to talk about their probs and accept advice...

hi marylin, though your son has told that he has got over the divorce issues, it can clearly be seen that your son is missing his father a lot, i think that you should ask his father to talk to him, but this doesnt mean that you cant take care of your son, but i think that right now since he's missing his father a lot, when his father will talk to him, he'll be ok.

He uses alcohol to cover up his feelings because he is unable to deal without the alcohol.

If he doesn't stop now he may not be able to in the future because he will be addicted to it. Alcohol is very hard to stop once you are addicted to it!

I would advise you to get him some help. Counseling maybe?

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hi there i think your son has a different problem, try to get to know about that first then i think that you'll be able to help him, i think he doesnt need a mother right now but a friend who will be able to understand him and guide him on the correct route!!!!!!

Some OTHER BIG problems..symblisajoy is right to say that the divorce (though it might be the main problem) does not seem to be the only problem. I hope you have been able to talk to him after these last months..

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He is too young to consume alcohol! You need to make him realise that this is not the solution to his problems. Others are right in saying that he most probably has other problems too. So, I think that you should talk to him as a friend and find out what’s troubling him so much?