Hello Capuccino, nice to meet you. I don't nuderstand what you want to say here? You mean partners are the ones who encourage the other to take alcoholic drinks? In what way could they do this?

Hello Marilyn if i may rephrase in his place. He wants to know who is the most guilty, the drinker or the one who watches him drink without acting?

Both

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hi capuccino, well my answer to you is that i dont think that any partner will encourage his or her partner to go for alcohol. it has been seen that main reason to choose alcoholic paths is either financial problems related with family problems which arises conflicts between family members. and often it's the malepartner that go for alcoholic drinks and the wife has to bear atocities due to which the wife prefers to go for a divorce.

I don't think you are objective, but you may think that you are, so i respect your point of view. Try to review some things in your life though, there may be some factors missing

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Yes, friend for life, i think you are missing some important points. Alcohol problems are not related to only two factors ... There can be various different problems which can make this arise and a stable couple can be affected by this normally.

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Originally Posted by Splash He wants to know who is the most guilty, the drinker or the one who watches him drink without acting?

The alcohol-taker obviously has his/her responsibility in the issue but it's not because the partner does not take in alcohol that he/she might not be "guilty". He/she has some part of responsibility too since he/she does not make a move to make his/her partner stop. But it depends on the situation. The non-drinking partner might think having tried everything to make the drinker stop and seeing no change, has given up. Anyway, there can be several different cases...

So there are various kinds or replies for only a question? Give us your different poitn of views, don't worry, we are here to read. Write write write Elvy! We're eager to know more

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“Neurosis is the natural, logical development of an individual who is comparatively inactive, filled with a personal, egocentric striving for superiority, and is therefore retarded in the development of his social interest, as we find regularly among”

What is happening to you? Are you drunk or what? Write something yourself, we're eager to know your point of view

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Alcohol is a serious problem as one doesn’t have any control on their acts. People tend to talk nonsense when they’re drunk or they exaggerate about everything. They even forget everything they did when they wake up the next morning. It’s not easy to live with someone who is addicted to alcohol and who doesn’t want to stop at all.