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10-13-2006, 11:36 PM
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My husband and I have been married for 2 years. We have a daughter (from his first marriage). Since he and I met, his ex( we'll call her Sophie) has NOT approved of our relationship. In the beginning Dawn(our daughter) would come to our house and say things like "you and dad are rushing into marriage" and "you are too young to marry my dad." We knew her mom was telling her these things since a 5-year-old would probably not think of it on her own, but we took it in stride and got passed it. Since then things have gotten even more tense between her mom and I. School functions are unbearably uncomfortable. So i thought I would try to be civil with her(at least for our daughter's sake). But when I started trying harder she came out and told my husband "I will be honest, I don't like her and when dawn asks me if I like her I just tell her the truth and tell her NO." Now I don't really care about her not liking me, but what I have a problem with is her putting ideas in a child's head, as if it hasn't been hard enough trying to have a relationship with Dawn. If that wasn't enough she is always trying to compete and upstage us with elaborate gifts.
I am just fed up. I really believe that she doesn't like the fact that her ex and I are together. I think she wants him back. Even though the reason they got divorced was because she cheated on him. I need some advice, this has been weighing me down for long enough! ammc 
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10-16-2006, 11:08 AM
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I WISH you a warm welcome, ammc
 I'm so sorry that you have to go through this, and you've come ionthe right forum, we are all willing to help you out. Well firstly, what does your husband think about it all?? What's his opinions about his ex's sayings and yours?
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10-23-2006, 08:12 AM
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Ouch, thats a tough call, i personally would just let it be and even if her mum is putting ideas into your daughter head, let her. When she is older she will realize what a liar and such her mum is and then start to resent her and not yourself. At this stage i dont think there is anything you can really do that your not doing. Your being polite and taking things in strides.
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02-07-2007, 03:26 PM
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Weighing in
That really sucks Ammc, IMO there is a good possibility that you are right about the ex trying to sabotage your relationship. My future brother in law’s ex did essentially the same thing, filling his daughter’s heads full of negative things because, well, I imagine that she knew that she could never have him back due to her infidelity AND the fact that before the encounter she would never have won the best wife of the year award, she wanted to make his life miserable like hers.
 Regrettably some people are just like that.  Do you best for Dawn, and let her know how much you care for her and let your actions speak for you; it’s all you can do. Speaking from experience (my ex had three kids and my fiancée has two) that is all you can do. Definitely let hubby know what’s going on as his ex is poisoning his daughter and trust me that can be VERY destructive, let’s just say that my FBIL’s daughters need a lot of ‘guidance’ now that they are living with him and his new wife. I’m not trying to scare you, just trying to fill you in. You may not be able to stop Sophie’s destructive habits, but you can head off the damage with Dawn. Don’t make a mountain out of a molehill but don’t ignore it either, deal with it when it comes up in a kind and loving way, yeah? 
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