Hello New Dad. Welcome on this forum, hope we will all be able to help. I don't think you're being too sensitive or that kind of thing. I can really understand what you feel, and you are indeed right when you say its no more high school time. Do you mind me asking why you decided to go for a second job? The stories about the ex boyfriends, and the going-outs with friends and all are they since the beginning of your relationship?

I am getting a second job because I want to go to a school that will cost approx 2500 dollars. It will allow me lots of flexibility finincially and increse my income etc. I will also have to take one week off my full time job to go to this class so I will need a money to cover that as well.

She does not understand that paying me is not an option. The things I do around here are because I want to do them and because I love them both. I can't be both a boyfriend and an employee.


Yes the stories about other men etc come from her and her girlfriend since about 2 months into the relationship.

I mean I really do not want to hear about any of it good , bad, complimentary etc. I understand that she has a past as do I only I never talk about it. Once after I had asked her several times to not discuss these things with me or in front of me with her friends, I decided to give her a taste of her own medicine and she became furious and tol me she did not want to hear it and I was only trying to hurt her. ( You can imagine how ugly that got) but I proved my point.

She can go over to guy friends houses that I have never met and do not know, but if I go to an old friends house ( female) I get 20 questions. I left to go for a drive and calm down last night and she asked me where I went to get rest. I was just driving, I went no where.

She once asked me to sneak off and marry her so she would think of me as a kept man. THAT HURT BAD.

She also refused to introduce me as her boyfriend to her other guy friends and always played me off as a friend and once a repairman. That has stopped since then because I went nutso about it.


She will not take money from me AT ALL for any bills. The only thing I can do is buy groceries, supplies etc.

She threw that in my face and added up all that I have spent since July 10th and it was roughly 2500 dollars in food, items for her daughter and dinners, dates etc. that shut her up really quick I do contribute AND pull WAY more than my fair share of the weight.

On our 6 month anniversary I put together candles, flowers, wine, cards balloons and had it all laid out for her when she came home. It was about 9 PM and she did not say thank you, no kiss, NOTHING. She did not even read the card for 2.5 hours claiming she wanted to be in "the right state of mind" then siad, "We are in two different places right now, why don't you just go ahead and go to bed." It really hurt my feelings. when I confronted her about it, she said I am sorry you did not get the response you wanted because you got me flowers and a card. SHe told me I had no reason to be upset and got infuriated and told me she did not ask for a boyfriend I do not have to have them in my life if I don't choose to. I was emotionally destroyed and things have not been the same since.

AM I just nuts or over sensitive? Do I expect too much? I am a good man. I really love them both and do not want this to not work. I have always wanted a family and she does have many wonderful qualities about her depite the things I have written here.

Advice?

hello man
ur girlfrd's behaviour is quite complicated.was she like that wen u met her?or she has started being mean like that after some time?first of all she is just taking u for granted.u should show her ur importance.she cant just have her way at things like that.she has stopped being caring and wants averything to be the way she wants them to be. there should be an understanding and coorperation between u two.so she cant just have her own way at things like that.try to make her understand that.maybe u r too caring n dats y she takes u for granted.she thinks that u will accept everthing that she says and does.she luvs u,she should have understood that u dont like her talking abt her ex bf,or doing things that piss u off.she should not have been reluctant to tell her friends about u etc.i dnt think she would have like it if u did the same thing to her.she should try to put herself in ur place and look at things from ur point of view b4 behaving like that.it seems as if she doesnt care about how u'll feel.was she like that wen u just knew her?if not,try to figure out the reason for this sudden change in her