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10-10-2006, 06:47 AM
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We had a great young love - my first ever relationship in collage. I thought I had found the one and I did. For the 9 years we had been together, I started working really hard on it about 4 years ago. Lots of communications, in every form.. but he did not take it seriously. Emails...tears..etc. Finally asked for some space to think... I got it with price - his family saw me as a unfit wife. When decision time came to let things go - he asked for a chance... I gave... but his old ways to traveling..etc. came forth again. When I was done... once again - he came around full force and I again took things slow and wanted to make it work - yet he suggested us living apart and forgetting marriage rules. Just date for as long as we can. Anyway after 9 months of back and forth I am done. My family is siding with him and he has gotten himself sick enough to be in Emergency - trying not to lose me and saying he has changed for good - My family says he truely has... he is he has realized and changed - but I have moved on from this relationship and have no support of the people that matter. The growing apart took place in 2004... two years ago... I tried to stop it - but it takes two people. I know I have made the right decision for myself - it would be great to get confirmation though!
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10-10-2006, 07:08 AM
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Hello Eva. Thanks for sharing your story.
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10-12-2006, 10:30 AM
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Yes Eva, if you took this decision, it must be because you think that's the best for you. Just tell me what's better than the best for oneself??
 I see you gave him lots of chances to prove he could change his ways, but he didn't, he just got sick. Looks like the VERY last trial. Too late. Ok, that's really sad for him, so you could have a discussion with him, explain to him your decision, and if he cares for you, let you have the right to want what's good for yourself.
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We are our own devils; we drive ourselves out of our Edens.*Goethe*
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12-11-2006, 09:32 AM
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If you said that you took a decision for yourself then i do not think that it will ever be wrong.If you feel that you have given him chances to change and he did nothing to mend his ways then I feel that you should really move on.You cannot just trusting someone that is not willing to change.In my opinion you took the best decision.
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12-11-2006, 09:49 AM
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That's a very good thing that you took the right decision because a lot on people on earth take the bad one most of the time and thereafter wonder why their life is stumbling down.
 People wake uo because you ruin your own life
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12-26-2006, 05:49 PM
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hi eva, welcome here, well im so happy that you could make it, i couldnt!! even though you've been in this relationship for 9 long long years, you've been able to come out if it, i should congratulate you for this, you are a strong person and i really appreciate that. best of luck for your future life!!
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12-28-2006, 12:41 AM
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you definetly did the right thing for you. It sucks that your family is siding with him, they should be supporting you b/c that's what family does. And it seems that you tried really hard in all aspects and it failed, which is to not say you failed... your attempts did b/c he was not reciprocating. Good luck.
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12-28-2006, 07:09 AM
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I confirm... LOL..
Seriously it is a good things that you have tackled all this instead of going all out in some kind of engagement that would have failed. You are very lucky to have escaped the pain of an unhappy marraige; many of those here would have liked to have your chance... Concerning your family as support, all i can say is that they must have their reason to side with him; but even if they do side with him for any reason what so ever, they are not the one living this relationship as part of this couple but as mere observers... all the decisions are yours... even if some support helps, i know that you'll live on... with there support or not... Hope i made some sense ...
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04-06-2007, 05:34 AM
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