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Old 09-27-2006, 04:01 PM
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How much is reasonable? I realize not everyones the same, or trends change in relationships. Its a big issue with my wife and I, and I dont see us working it out. No compatability. Just trying to get an idea of frequencies.

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Old 09-27-2006, 06:16 PM
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Actually as long as you want someone, just do it. As your say everyone is not the same. Some peeps are very sexual and others aren't. Everyday is fine for me, but i don't live with my boy friend yet. Maybe the persons who are married could share their point of view ...
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Old 09-27-2006, 06:20 PM
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At the beginning of our marriage, my husband and i had sex everyday, after some years it was every week. Then recently, i was not at all. In fact, my husband and i aren't compatible at all. I thought i was the one having a problem until i saw him in bed with another man. Can you imagine the shock i had that day?
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Old 09-27-2006, 07:18 PM
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How much is reasonable? I realize not everyones the same, or trends change in relationships. Its a big issue with my wife and I, and I dont see us working it out. No compatability. Just trying to get an idea of frequencies.

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How could we know how your body works?It's hormonal.
Some people like it everyday like a meal others twice or thrice a week or during weekends only.
That issue should be discussed with your wife or with a professional.If your wife doesn't feel like it, you should not make an issue out of it!!We, women work differently, like it or not!!
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Old 09-27-2006, 07:40 PM
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How could we know how your body works?It's hormonal.
Some people like it everyday like a meal others twice or thrice a week or during weekends only.
That issue should be discussed with your wife or with a professional.If your wife doesn't feel like it, you should not make an issue out of it!!We, women work differently, like it or not!!
An issue out of it?? It is an issue, a serious one in our relationship. How should she know...how about 7yrs together. The issue is being discussed in counseling.

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Old 09-28-2006, 05:22 AM
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Hello Miller

You are right, you are the only one who know what is happening between your wife and yourself. Sex is indeed a very important thing and it's normal to be worried about it.
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As long as it does not turn to pervertion, it is okay. Sexual compatibility is a very important thing in marital life.
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Old 09-28-2006, 05:29 AM
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An issue out of it?? It is an issue, a serious one in our relationship. How should she know...how about 7yrs together. The issue is being discussed in counseling.

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Hi Miller! Don't take care of Heath... she writes some weird stuff all the time... Cause i'm a woman too and i can tell that it's not Hormonal LOL... It's all in the head.

BTW, how are things going? sorted the thangs with your lady?
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Old 09-28-2006, 06:01 AM
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Hello Miller,how are you doing?They are all right here(not understood what heath wanted to say ,weird,weird ).I think that there is no limit of having sex,it depends on the couple,it depends on the kind of relationship and the mood also.You know,you and your wife had just overcome some difficulties and you should give her time..You should not make things go fast,it may work as it may not also..Jen23 is absolutely right,it is in the head.
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Old 09-28-2006, 06:07 AM
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I think about 3 times a week would be a good number to have sex, it does depend on age as well if your older you might not want to have sex as much.
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Old 09-28-2006, 06:18 AM
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I would love to do it everyday. Even if i'm a very shy girl and don't like to talk about sex in real life, i'm very sexual. My cousin is 28, it has been 5 years since she is married and told me that she does it 3 to 4 times a week, so it joins what Tammy said.
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