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Old 09-27-2006, 05:44 AM
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Divorce has always been a life altering experience much like the death of a loved one, you feel like you have lost something. You have lost the way of life you came to know over the years. The security of knowing you're not alone, whether it is physically, financially, or emotionally walked out of your life in the same way that an old pair of well worn shoes leaves your closet. The importance of grieving the loss cannot be stated enough. You must spend some time mourning, licking your wounds, and searching your soul to answer the what, where, how, who, and why of life. You won't actually answer all the questions, but you will come out on the other side knowing yourself better in a new way. During this time make friends and family a circle of support for you. You may find that your old friends, not anxious to choose sides, fall to the wayside. Make new ones and these friends will understand the new you. You must approximately live the single life for 6 months to 1 year before journeying towards the dating path.
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Old 09-28-2006, 06:23 AM
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You must spend some time mourning, licking your wounds, and searching your soul to answer the what, where, how, who, and why of life. You won't actually answer all the questions, but you will come out on the other side knowing yourself better in a new way.
I love that part. It's true that when we take some time to lick our wounds, we feel much better afterwards in all situations, not only after a divorce
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Yes, we must never let ourselves go down when there is a problem. We should keep the faith and go on with the normal course of life, just fight. When we lose faith, we can lose everything and that is a very bad thing according to me.
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Divorce has always been a life altering experience much like the death of a loved one, you feel like you have lost something.

I prefer this part, very nice passage. I remember there was a thread about divorce and death on the forum, it would have really helped there. Thanks for sharing xgirl.

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Old 10-20-2006, 03:21 PM
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Actually, the passage was much longer and i was very pleased when i read it. The person who wrote this is very good. I like his writing style a lot.
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Old 10-27-2006, 06:01 AM
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The part I like most in the passage is:
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You won't actually answer all the questions, but you will come out on the other side knowing yourself better in a new way. During this time make friends and family a circle of support for you. You may find that your old friends, not anxious to choose sides, fall to the wayside. Make new ones and these friends will understand the new you. You must approximately live the single life for 6 months to 1 year before journeying towards the dating path.
It's about the positive actions the person must take to feel better, to go along, and not stay in his/her depressive state. Nice passage Xgirl.
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A very well written and informative passage. Some people write very interesting things and i congratulate them for this. They are of great help to our world, to our children. They give good examples, they are models for our societies. I hope this person will keep on writing
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Xgirl, this is a very interesting passage, where a lot is said in here. we learn about the phases gone through after divorce, what to do so as not to get more depressive and how to get along with life after having been hurt, how to get up again after having cried your soul out. Yes This is very touching.
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Thank you for liking what i posted. Did it help you in some ways?

It did for me, i realized lots of important things

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Thank you for liking what i posted. Did it help you in some ways?

It did for me, i realized lots of important things
It's just now that I read It's really a very moving passage, full of truth...

I am sure this helped lots of people since they've found themselves into this passage.
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