I got divorce last year after a long procedure, although not having children, everything was in my favor.
As for my state of mind, that too is a reason to be thankful, i have good days and bad days, just like everybody else. Occassionaly i get "flashes" when i remember a sight, a sound or the smell of perfume that my ex wife used to spray, but i'm not overwhelmed by them. The bad things that happened are still there, but i can live with them. I think we all have to stop and take stock of our lives at times. We need to make a conscious effort to see where we are going and what we need, and never be too afraid or too proud to ask for help. I'm actually a very stong person who took a lot of knocks before falling for a whike and perhaps falling was the best thing that could have happened to me. It forced me to stop struggling and trying to pretend i was alright and accept help. Thanks to God, the family and my Doctor, i came through it all.