I have 4 children and my ex remarried 6 weeks after our divorce was final. They were not seeing each other when we were married and I was always willing to give her a fair chance but she is so mean. My ex did not want our divorce and frankly neither did I. It was just something that got out of hand and we were both too stubborn to stop it. She knows that neither of us wanted the divorce and that he still loves me and she is very threatened by it. We are not allowed to talk at all unless she is standing there(even on the phone). He is not allowed to attend any events for the children if she is not there because I will be there. When we are all at events for the kids she stands there and gives me dirty looks the whole time and the kids are starting to notice. She gave up her own kids to try to make her marriage work with my ex and she rarely sees her girls. She is content being a mother figure for my boys and lives her entire life to please my ex. Him and I have talked about it and she is very mean to him at home and talks to him really bad but that is his problem. I just don't know how to deal with her. On Friday she was giving me dirty looks and my 7 year old told me about it. After everyone was in the car except her I walked over and in a calm voice told her that she needed to watch her facial expressions because he had noticed and pulled me to the side to tell me about it. That I didn't want her doing that in front of the kids. She started yelling at me about calling "her husband" all the time *Censored **Censored **Censored **Censored **Censored *ing about everything. I then let me temper get me but in a calm voice told her that her husband and I do talk because he sends me text messages for me to call him (he can't call because it will show on the bill). Now they are both mad at me as well as my kids. My kids were with them for the weekend and my 7 year old got in trouble for starting the arguement. They told the kids that I do nothing but start trouble and they don't need to tell me things that go on at their house. (there have been occasions things have happened at their house and I have gotten upset about but rightfully so). I don't know what else to do with her. We have to see each other every day and i want my kids to be well adjusted.