I am so sorry that things that to come as they are. I can understand your feelings because i have a friend who went exactly through the same situation. See, most daughters are close to their father rather than to their mother. Daughters see their father as someone who pamper them and all. I can see how much you love her daughter, and for her sake, you'll have to tell her the truth. I dont see any way out. But you must expect that her immediate reaction wont be that pleasant. She'll see you as the one who wants to separate her from her father. Thus, you should be strong. Time will prove that you are right. I wish you all the best.

She is 8 years old, I'm sure you can tell the what is going on. She might rebell, she might ask you a lot of questions.

Hearing that her dad will be living with another woman, this might discourage her to stay with her dad. Another important thing here, don't make her has a wrong and bad impression on her dad. Simply explain to her that she cannot live with her coz he will be living with another woman.

You have no other choice than telling your daughter about his father's reality, explain to her slowly and clearly that he cheated, he loves another woman more than his family and in some days he would be moving to the other women's house and ask her if she would like to leave you and accompany his dad or be with you? She has 8 years old and i think she should go with the one she feels more attached and happy with...

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the best way out of it is to tell her the whole dirty truth and she will for sure hate her dad but atlkeast she will not be illtreated.

I thint that it will be better for you to tell her the truth about the reason for your divorce.This will make her make a decision on where to stay after the divorce.
You should also make it clear that your husband will also having a mistress.

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Even if she does go live with her dad, you will have joint custody. Maybe he can have her weekends and mondays and you have her tuesday through friday ect. That way you both get the best of both worlds!

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At 8 years I think she can understand some things. Use simple words and tell her what the situation's all about. Then she'll be able to make her choice on her own, where she'd prefer to go or not. Why do you say she'll be ill-treated? The other girl is bad?

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Yeah you must be very careful if you talk to your child. You must not make her feel this is a sorta competition between you and her dad, This can affect her very much and not be very positive for you.

hi sue, i'm so sorry that your marriage had to end up like this, but i think that you did right to leave him, and i think that if you explain your daugher well she'll know that her dad even though he loves her, doesnt loves her mom, so it will be better that she lives with you, her mom, and that her dad has someone else in his now, so she have a better life with you rather with her dad!!!