Firstly you will have to remember that life at office and life at home are two completely different things. Try not to mix them as much as you can . You have to be very careful. Leave office work when you leave office please. Secondly please do not try and pretend to be someone else. It never pays . You should try to be what you are. As you yourself have said that you try and act to put up a brave front. It is not really important to pretend what you are not. Please try to be what you are believe me this woud help you be a much better person and would surely when you many friends too. Moreover try and learn the techniques of stress management. This would help you be more efficient than others.

Hey I have a similar situation to share . I would be highly obliged if anybody helps my out.
I am a very ambitious guy & I am one of the most reliable guys for the management . Guys who work with me also like me because I try to understand their problems . The problem is that sometimes when the management gives me directives & i pass it on to my colleagues my colleagues take me otherwise & think that I am forcing them for it but I know that I am not . I end up doing a lot of work myself & that leads to depression but I try to cheer up the other guys so that they dont get depressed & face them with an artificial smile . This effects my life when I am not at work . Can you tell me how to get myself out of this ?

Hi marcus !!
You have to realise the art of drawing the line....As the rest of the world even you carry your workload home.........SAY NO TO IT RIGHT NOW!! You have to get your priority straight. DO you live to work or do you work to live!! The former right , then please draw the liune ....Remember your worklife should not shadow you after you have left office...Stop bringing your problems home with you....Secondly , its great you realise that your fellow workers are facing preoblems its great to help others but not at your own cost...Do not overburden yourself as it may end up affecting you in a negative manner ...

All I can Say to Marcus and Kindheart are not to lose faith in themselves............

As your question suggests you are very confused person. You are not clear that what to do where. I too agree with all other guys that u are intermingling your personal and official life. This is the main problem. Left the problem of works at office and behave familiar when u are in home. I no that it is not easy to live in two characters simultaneously.
I hope that you are understanding my points and will implement it.
Hopefully it will help you.

YOus houdl see a therapist adn get one some mild medication.

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dont bring work to home dear....forget thinking about work once you reach home...talk with your family members as soon as you reach home...sit with them and relax...then you ll forget things tht happened in office...

you can always go into coucelling and talk to a profesional...

i would sugest going out after work, a nice long walk along the beach get some new acitities you enjoy, sewing, knitting ect. When you come home, look forward to doing "home" things! Leave your lap top ect at work, or if you need to take it home dont open it up. You can start reading, cooking baking, hanging out with friends try new things, canoeing, hiking ect.

In the end try to make some friends outside of work who wont talk about anything work related, good luck