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Old 09-17-2006, 06:30 AM
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I recently read that cheaters could be considered as sociopaths and they their life is based on “not facing the truth" They tend to lie about so stupid things that lies aren't even necessary sometimes.

They think that getting away with lies makes them feel so superior, and even when they are being detected, they still maintain their lie because they simply think they are fooling everyone.

Let’s take an easy example, Michael Jackson claims that he only had two nose jobs and his skin is light because of vitiligo (his supposed skin problem). We all know know he is lying, but he still maintains that this is absolutely true and almost certainly thinks that a lot of persons all over the world believe him.

Sociopaths are sick people who are not able to entertain normal interpersonal relationships, both sexual and platonic, and they only hurt the people in their lives. So please beware when you meet such peeps …

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Old 09-19-2006, 08:25 AM
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Some are so ashamed of themselves that even they know that the rest of the world know that they are lying, they would never tell the truth. They would maintain, it's sad but unfortunately it's like that.

Like you said, they might be sick.
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Well, psycopaths are mentally unstable people but not all liars are psyco.. some lie because they take enormous pleasure in distorting facts to others or to make others believe things that does not exist. such people are great manipulators. If at first they have succeeded they'll continue on this path for many years to come..even a whole lifetime if not stopped properly at the start. This is typically what frauds do.
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Old 09-20-2006, 07:05 PM
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Well, psycopaths are mentally unstable people but not all liars are psyco..
You are so right, but what about the sociopaths? Tornado is talking about sociopaths. Is there a difference between a psychopath and a sociopath according to you? Is there a difference between the degree of lies?

Cheaters are more sociopaths or psychopaths? Any idea?
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Old 09-21-2006, 06:21 AM
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But what about those people who only lie to cover up a mistake or to save someone or a relationship, lets supposed that a husband is cheating on his wife and he deeply regrets about his doings, as he really loves his wife, so naturally he would lie and continue to bury the lies within him only to save his relationship, so in this case is he considered as a sociopaths?
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lets supposed that a husband is cheating on his wife and he deeply regrets about his doings, as he really loves his wife, so naturally he would lie and continue to bury the lies within him only to save his relationship
Why is it normal to lie, after a husband has cheated on his wife? Can you please explain?

How is he saving the relationship? You mean women don't know when their husbands cheat on them and that's a good thing that a guy lies until the woman knows everything?
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Old 09-21-2006, 09:47 AM
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Why is it normal to lie, after a husband has cheated on his wife? Can you please explain?

How is he saving the relationship? You mean women don't know when their husbands cheat on them and that's a good thing that a guy lies until the woman knows everything?
We are all human and we do make mistakes, we all have our weakness and strength.
So, it is something normal and who is that stupid man who will let his wife know that he is cheating on her??
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Cheaters I would say they would intentionally. They want to cheat. They have think about doing it.

Where as lies I would say sometimes I see it like in some cases we don't lie coz we don't want to hurt or to offend someone. Like a white lie.
Suppose, we don't want to attend a party invited by a close friend, we might tell her/him that we we busy. We won't dare telling him/her the truth that we did not want to join the party. Coz this would offend him/her. So this is a white lie and there is nothing harm in it
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Sociopaths are sick people who are not able to entertain normal interpersonal relationships, both sexual and platonic, and they only hurt the people in their lives. So please beware when you meet such peeps …[/color][/size]

Thanks for the tips....I must beware now.
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Cheaters I would say they would intentionally. They want to cheat. They have think about doing it.
I agree that women in general think before cheating, but not men. Men can't think when it comes to things like that. I agree with splash on that part.

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Where as lies I would say sometimes I see it like in some cases we don't lie coz we don't want to hurt or to offend someone. Like a white lie.
Suppose, we don't want to attend a party invited by a close friend, we might tell her/him that we we busy. We won't dare telling him/her the truth that we did not want to join the party. Coz this would offend him/her. So this is a white lie and there is nothing harm in it
I agree with you totally, it doesn't harm at all.

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