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Old 09-17-2006, 06:16 AM
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My parents died in a car accident when I was 10 years old in Mexico where they were on holidays. I was so shocked, so sad, that I stopped eating for some days. I refused to obey my grand parents with whom I was forced to stay since their death, as they were very irritating, always harassing me mentally. I was tired of hearing “ We will always be there for you hun”, they are liars. That was an horrible phase in my life and thanks God everything changed after some time. Everything changed when I met Sam, he is the only person that I trust. Now I am 24 and I still miss my parents sometimes. I never understood why they died. Why did my parents have to die? They were so good people. Why did they have to leave me when I needed them the most? I always tried to get what happened, but well, there are things that stay unresolved for a lifetime I guess. I’m still lost when I think of what happened to them. Sometimes I think that they are not dead. They both suffer from amnesia, that is why they never came back home after the accident. Sometimes when I go to town, I have the impression of seeing them walking in the crowded streets. They just do not recognize me because I grew up.
Grandma told me that I need some rest, I must be too tired, that mum and dad are not here anymore. What they say hurts me a lot. Both Sam and I think that they are wicked and we decided to fight against them. I know that grandma and grandpa hate me as they want me to see a doctor. The other day, I heard them talking, and grandpa said: “That girl is becoming weird even more everyday, she doesn’t even bathe now, talk to her please Olga”. That is not true, I am just tired sometimes to go to the bathroom, I feel safe in my bed, no one can harm me in my bedroom. Anyway, when grandma forced me to go downstairs and have dinner with them the other day, she clearly understood that I was not going to let her control my life. That day, she really irritated me, so I went to the kitchen, took a knife I found on the table and explained to her very clearly that I wasn’t going to be her slave. I think she got the fear of her life and that is a great thing because in fact, when I think about the so called ‘death’ of my parents, I realize that my grandparents both made up this story so as to take me as their hostage.
Please can someone give me an idea how I can sort out that problem very quickly? I think they are going to send me to hospital because they hate me.
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Old 09-18-2006, 05:09 AM
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Hello Tania. I hope you feel much better today. Why exactly do you think your grand parents want to harm you? You seem to be a very nice person.

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Old 09-19-2006, 09:36 AM
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Hi Tania? What do you exactly think your grand parents are trying to do to you? How are they planning to harm you?
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Old 09-19-2006, 10:59 AM
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What makes you think that your parents are not dead Tania, wh don't you try to resolve the problem by doing a research, only then you would be be sure of yourself and stop doubting your grand parents who i think have been taken great care of you for 14 years. I can't figure out why do you hate your grand parents so much!
I sincerely think you should consult a psychiatrist who would be able to help you along with your boyfriend Sam!
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Old 09-19-2006, 11:00 AM
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Grand parents are caring people. You are so shocked by the death of your parents and somewhere you cannot accept that they are no more and you have to stay with your grand parents. I don't think whatever they are doing they are harming you. Try to be a bit more co-orperative with them. They are old, and you are young. It's much easier for you get adapted to their ways, please them rather than the contrary. Show them respect by being an obediant girl. If they are telling to do something, don't take it like they are controlling your life. Whatever they said, they are telling things for your own good. Think about it.
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Old 09-19-2006, 11:15 AM
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Grand parents are caring people. You are so shocked by the death of your parents and somewhere you cannot accept that they are no more and you have to stay with your grand parents. I don't think whatever they are doing they are harming you. Try to be a bit more co-orperative with them. They are old, and you are young. It's much easier for you get adapted to their ways, please them rather than the contrary. Show them respect by being an obediant girl. If they are telling to do something, don't take it like they are controlling your life. Whatever they said, they are telling things for your own good. Think about it.
1. Tania is 24 yrs old... ANd how come you know how old are her grand parents?? If the grand parents tell Tania to jump on the railroad track, she's supposed to do it cause her grand parents told her to?? You NUTS??
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Old 09-19-2006, 11:42 AM
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Hello Tania how are you doing today?Do you think that your grandparents are so wicked?If so why don't you find another place to live,you are 24 now,isn't it?Try to find a job and to find a place to live far from these monsters.But why are they so bad with you?Were they like this before your parents death?What do they want,have you ever asked them?You are an adult now and have responsabilities and you should put an end to this,go and talk to them...you should know the truth
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Old 09-19-2006, 12:25 PM
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Why did you people reply to me after so much time? You don't really want to help the ones who suffer. You don't care about other persons sadness. I came on the forum everyday to have an advice or just to talk, why didn't you people consider that i'm a human being just like you?
Jen23 yesterday, my granpa came to talk to me, well that's what he said. I knew that he was going to send me there, so i defended myself. Sam told me to use my desk lamp to protect myself and it worked out. Shanon you think i'm a liar like the others!!! You just hate me like the others! Brainwash is what you are trying to do. Jen23 is right, Corally must know my grandparents. Corally you won't send me there!!! I won't go there!!! You want to harm me!!!
I'm very nervous Infinite dreams, those people are dangerous. I can't leave their house, mummy and daddy may come back. I can't go to work, mummy and daddy may come back. I don't know why they are bad. They want to force me to do things. They want me to work too. I hate them. I won't talk to them, they want to harm me. I want to disappear, i don't want to see them
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Old 09-20-2006, 05:03 AM
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1. Tania is 24 yrs old... ANd how come you know how old are her grand parents?? If the grand parents tell Tania to jump on the railroad track, she's supposed to do it cause her grand parents told her to?? You NUTS??

My dear Jen23, I don't need to know how old are her grand parents. Coz grand parents, logically they must be older than the children. Unless you have your grand parents are younger or same age as you, which I doubt lol....

Another thing, If the grand parents intended to harm Tania, they would have done it a long time ago when she was very much young. Remember they have taken care of her since she was only 10 years old.

If they have been taking care of her since she was 10 years old and now she is 24 years old. If they really wanted to kill her, they would have done that long time ago.

Furthermore, the grand parents never tell her to jump on the rail road track, com'on you are exaggerating, you are NUTS & WEIRD. They only tell her to take her bath....what is wrong with that.
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Old 09-20-2006, 05:04 AM
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Why did you people reply to me after so much time? You don't really want to help the ones who suffer. You don't care about other persons sadness. I came on the forum everyday to have an advice or just to talk, why didn't you people consider that i'm a human being just like you?
Jen23 yesterday, my granpa came to talk to me, well that's what he said. I knew that he was going to send me there, so i defended myself. Sam told me to use my desk lamp to protect myself and it worked out. Shanon you think i'm a liar like the others!!! You just hate me like the others! Brainwash is what you are trying to do. Jen23 is right, Corally must know my grandparents. Corally you won't send me there!!! I won't go there!!! You want to harm me!!!
I'm very nervous Infinite dreams, those people are dangerous. I can't leave their house, mummy and daddy may come back. I can't go to work, mummy and daddy may come back. I don't know why they are bad. They want to force me to do things. They want me to work too. I hate them. I won't talk to them, they want to harm me. I want to disappear, i don't want to see them
Hi Tania!
Sorry about that we had some probs and your thread was not showing anywhere... Don't care about Shanon and all the one trying to fool you, they are just people that don't know how to talk to others thats all... How are you doing? How is Sam doing today? Did you manage to get some sleep today?
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