You are what you are? What do you mean? It's been 16 yrs now that my parents are divorced, i'm a product of a dysfunctional marriage and i'm very objective and confident. No one can move me from where i am Even if people hurt me, i don't let myself die.

I don't believe a word of what you said coz it's incoherent. Do you think that if you come from a nice family, you are better than those who come from a divorced one? Most of the people having both mum and dad together are naive, they are not confident and don't know what hurt means. I know what it is to wait for a father who will never come back. My father's like dead for me and the divorce made me stronger. I can manipulate people. I am a fighter, i always have what i want. If you were functional in your head, you would have never said something like that coz NEVER FORGET that there are a lot of persons coming from a dysfunctional family on earth. Others may be greatly affected by what you just said coz they aren't strong.

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Lots of hugs girl. Yes, it seems that you are a strong person by the way you talk all over the forum.
What i learned all through my life is that you must suffer to become stronger in life. You must always be prepared to the worse in this world. If you never had a dysfunctional life, it means, you don't know whether it's good to come from a functional one. If you think that you know everything and that you are prepared for the worse well splash's true, you are naive. Good luck

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Originally Posted by Mayra But I believe marriages are forever, and my parents are an example of that and I believe that’s possible even today!

Well, the two previous persons are right, you are naive, it's not because your parents are still together that marriages should be forever for everyone. Sometimes, even soulmates divorce and we don't even understand why, but they are the one who know why they did so ...
I know you love your parents a lot, but what proof do you have that your dad didn't cheat on your mum ( or is still doing so) vice versa?

According to you how many years of marriage did i have before finding my man in bed with another man? Just an approximate figure ...

That's true having parents who don't fight, don't drink, parents who are not separatedor divorced whatever doesn't mean that you have a better education than the others who suffer? Suffering makes you tougher. Most of the children become strong when they suffer

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Yeah, you all are right. I know some friends that have strict and severe parents and these friends are being seen everyday drunk on the road doing anything of their life and others with alcoholic parents, who are always quarrelling, having their children becoming doctors and teachers.

I agree with you that marriage should be forever and that it should not be a short term affair.But there are problems which can caused a marriage to end up in divorce.According to me these divorces could have been prevented if people had taken time to choose their partner and to do some compromises in their relationships.

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Yeah Johnny, you are so right. People should talk a little bit more before getting married. Staring in the eyes ends as soon as you get married lol that's what people don't understand. We need more than that after some time ....

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Marriages can be forever like they might not be. It's good if your parents love each other more than anything and that their marriage is lasting, it's good also that you are secure and lift your head up high even through problems... but like most of us said here, it's not only because your parents have a perfect marriage that you are like that. You are what you are exactly because you are what you are, and not necessarily because your parents are what they are. My parents have not given the perfect example of perfect marriage either, but like you said "I AM WHAT I AM" today and proud of who I am.

Yeah u rock. We are what we are, we don't need parents to be what we are right now, maybe lil bit, but our personality is our sole 'creation'

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