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09-04-2006, 12:42 PM
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Help me ! I need your support ! Things are horrible in my house. I have two kids, a girl 10 years old and a boy 16 months old. I've been married for almost 3 years. My hubby is not my daughter's father but is the father of my son.
Things are horrible in my house. I don't even want to come home from work in the evening. I would rather pick up the kids and go stay at a hotel if it were possible. Micheal, my husband has a real problem with my daughter, I'm not sure exactly what it is because he has never told me. But for some reason he is always on her about everything-the very minute she comes home. "Kristina- unload the dishwasher, you have to take a shower tonight. You didn't take care of this plastic bottle, we don't leave these on the counter they go in the recycle bin." That is just to name a few. It goes on like that every single day. He is abusing my child verbally, and my child is affected by this attitude. 
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09-04-2006, 02:29 PM
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maybe you should try talking to your husband and ask him whether he has a problem with the child. explain to him that the child is being affected mentally by his words. did he know about the child when you married him? if yes then tell him that it was his decision to accept the child and now he cant behave like that with her. you have to react before your child gets a serious mental breakdown. come on gather yourself out
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09-05-2006, 10:18 AM
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As a mother you should protect your child, and the fact the step father is causing a lot of pain in the life of your daughter you have to do something.
You have to inquire with your husband what is wrong, what is the matter, that isn't normal that he acts so weird with the child. She is innocent, she is not doing him any harm. Where is the problem ? You have forced him to talk and formely ask him to stop it.
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09-06-2006, 05:57 AM
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I think if this man with whom you are living cannot accept your child, then it is not worth living with him. Is it because she is not her biological dad that he allows him to treat her like that. You cannot accept something like that Myrella.
You better left him if he cannot be a dad for your daughter. Think about the problem through this angle and then come up with a firm decision.
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09-07-2006, 05:43 AM
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I'm married for almost 2 years and before me and my wife have got time to have a child, she has already cheated on me. I love children a lot. I don't have people ill-treat children. They are innocent and they are angels to me.
Your man don't realize and don't know the pain for not having children. I wish his attitude change towards his step daughter.
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09-07-2006, 08:38 AM
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Well, if it's that unbearable for you and your children, just leave him. Did you try this? What do you think about that solution?
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If you want something said, ask a man...if you want something done, ask a woman - Margaret Thatcher 
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09-07-2006, 02:13 PM
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He may be doing other things to her as well...it doesnt sound good, get her to a counselor and maybe she can confide in them....also talk ot him and see what is his problem and get them out of there if all else fails, its not right she needs you....
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09-08-2006, 06:22 AM
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Hi Myrella, you have a job. This is important, coz you are financially independent. This is a good point. Now, a man in your house is treating your daughter badly and you are witnessing it everyday. I understand that he is the father of your son and step father for your daughter but that does not give him the right you cause so much pain to your daughter. You have to do something but it's get worse.
You have the possibility to leave him. Take your children and find somewhere else to stay. Tell frankly what the problem is all about and you just cannot take it anymore.
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To fight is a radical instinct; if men have nothing else to fight over they will fight over words, fancies, or women, or they will fight because they dislike each other's looks, or because they have met walking in opposite directions
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09-14-2006, 07:24 AM
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He is such an annoying man, i think he has some problem with your daughter for not being his biological father, but you should have stop him from pestering your daughter like this, you should not remain quiet, from now everytime he tell something to her, you should comment on his saying and explain to him how he should talk and behave with your daughter!
And what about his son, does he appear more affectionate to him or it is just his nature to be rude?
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09-14-2006, 05:15 PM
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Ohh dear, be brave and go and tell your husband that he ought to stop!! It is not a way to behave..all right he wants to tell her how to proceed or keep herself well mannered, but there is a way to say things. One cannot harp on an adolescent incessantly without thinking of the consequences this would have on her life! She'll be marked and will hate the step dad in the long run. Talk to him and tell him it's your daughter so YOU decide!!
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