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08-17-2005, 03:37 AM
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Im glad i came onto the site. Ive been marriaed for only a short amount of time. 1 year. But i hate it! I really want to break up with her and get a divorce, but...
Ive got some serious problems. She is 3 months pregnant, and i wanted her to get an abortion, but she didnt want to. So shes having my baby and i dont know how i feel about that. Im only 25, and cant support a kid. When i finally have the courage to tell her i want a divorce, i wimp out at the last minute and stutter a bunch of words out, looking like an idiot. I know this will break her heart thats why i cant do it. I have thought about just leaving the state and running away without telling her. It seems the easy way out. I really want to get this over with, it seems that everynight i cry because all i want to to is get out of this, but i feel im trapped. I dont know what to do, plese suggest something if you have been caught in this situation. 
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08-18-2005, 06:35 AM
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If you are 100% sure you want a divorce than just tell her. Get prepared for a night when both of you are free and have no commitments. Be prepared to sleep on the couch that night. And just say, he honey we need to talk, things are not working out. I think it would be best if we 'took a break'. You should break it to her in stages, after she gets to having a break than take it the next step. However make it perfectly clear that you will support her and the baby. You may not want to and might have thought about leaving, but dude be a man. If its your kid than take care of it.
I hope everthing works out for ya, let us all know how it goes...
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08-19-2005, 01:57 AM
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hmm that’s a tough call, I have always been one to say if you made the commitment to get married tough it out through thick and thin. However I don’t know what reasons you got married, for love or just a whim. I do know that you cannot just "fall out of love" there is always something there something to work with. However if you don’t think that you could ever work it out between you and her then tell her. I honestly wouldn’t know when the best time would be since she is pregnant and don’t know if it would interfere with the pregnancy (stress and all) but you should let her know your thoughts. Even if it’s just to get into counseling - good luck.
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10-31-2005, 08:42 AM
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Re:How do you tell her you want a divorce?
Hello Everybody,
I am agreeing with u Tammy. This is a sticky situation for Tech guy. He has to decide whether he will continue this relationship or end it. His concern toward her wife shows that he still loves her. So I will suggest him to talk with his spouse everything and try to solve the problem, I don't think breaking the relationship will be a good decision. Last edited by tina : 11-15-2005 at 09:17 AM.
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10-31-2005, 09:32 PM
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How do you tell her you want a divorce!
I think we are interfering with his personal issue. I think it will be better if he will decide that whether he has to continue his marriage or will take divorce. Although i am agree with nick that he must go to her and tell her everything straight forward. It may hurt her and u also at that time but i think it will be better to be apart rather then living with one another without your interest.
Last edited by tina : 11-15-2005 at 09:24 AM.
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11-15-2005, 09:34 AM
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Re:How do you tell her you want a divorce?
Hey Abhram,
U don't think that it will be really selfish to tell a women who is pregnant that his husband want divorce from her. This time she is emotionally very stress, so i think tech guy must wait till she deliver the baby. Also it is possible that arrival of new baby may change his decision. U are suggesting tech guy to behave cynically and live his wife at that time when she need her most.
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