I can understand your suffering but i can see a lot of courage in your words.

You should let the situation bring you down, you have to take control coz you have the ability and competence to do so. It's frustrating, difficult and hard but you should face it and we are here to encourage you and give as much support as possible.

You have proved yourself to be a courageous woman. It's really difficult to live with someone who has some kind of addiction however you made it through.

I'm sure that deep down inside you are strong and ready to face life again.

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Anything you can imagine is possible for you when you truly accept the possibility and sincerely bring it to life.

On yes, i was once dating a guy who was drug addict, he was a sick and would not live without sniffing cocaine, and he made my life a hell, i had lo leave him as he was completely over drugged! I had to move from the city too, only to forget him and everything that was connected to him.

You have already left him and your past, so forget about it, have a new life and focus on new and interesting things,
I know it's not that easy but it's not impossible also, so from now itself stop bothering about the past!

He has two addiction problem alcohol and drugs. I can understand what you are going through. Listen, he was sober for quite a long period of time and despite you married him, he didn't change. Thus is not willing to change.

If you feel that you cannot take it anymore, but have to take a firm decision. There is not happiness living with a man who is under such bad influences and who don't even both that he is destroying your life. The final decision is yours.

I feel that things are really bad on your side. If that's the case, you should move out of this mess before you become mad.

You cannot live a life whereby you can hardly focus on anything else. It's hell thus make a move to get out of this hell.

You are not alone - I thought I married a nondrinker and now he's a full blown alcoholic/drug addict - we've been married for almost 4 years and it has been a living hell.

My dad has always been on alcohol, but he was much more before, now he's put some pause to it (though a bit late I must say....). Anyway, I could see the pain through my mum's eyes everyday..but she's courageous (or vulnerable, extremely suggestible, I don't really know....) and she stayed into the relationship. I personally have always seen it a better option if they had divorced...but it's her decision after all (like many here made me understand thanks to all of you by the way). Unfortunately nowadays I can see a woman deeply bruised by all that she went through with an abusive husband...It hurts me a lot too.. I hate alcohol, I've seen its effects on an individual, and I've seen how it can lead a person to be a perfect abusive jerk even if basically/naturally, the person's not like that.

My cousin abused alcohol a lot. I don't really know if he was onto drugs, but I know he used to beat his wife too. I was so sorry for his wife, she's really a nice little woman. They are still together though. I don't know why she stays. My cousin might know how to make her stay with him, I don't really know. that's very sad. I don't like this cousin very much anyway. I'll pray for his wife.