I was so sad when reading your story and felt a bit concerned too. For so many years, you have not been able to express your feelings, and now, you cant bear it anymore. On the other hand, your husband is trying to be a better husband. But may be its too late!

What about your son? With whom will he stay after the divorce? Children are the ones who are most concerned when their parents get divorced.

Well, i would advise you to think well before taking any decision. Think of all the pros and cons. And whatever decision you take, stick to it!

Good luck my dear friend!

Crushed, you need to be strong. If you want divorce, then go for it. I think that the problem with us women, is that, we think with our hearts and not with our minds. We feel so concerned about other people's feelings, and we forget that once, those people have hurt us. I can imagine in what state of mind you are in, and i would advise that you take a decision as soon as possible. The choice is yours.

Hello all of u. How come all husbands are gamblers and emotional abusers on here
That's so weird, wonder where the world's going

Hi Crushed,
Please, please talk to a professional. Breaking up your family, when there is hope could be a mistake. At least try to see if you can work things out and see if your husband is truly ready to change. If not, you can always get a divorce. Check out Divorcebusting.com for some great info....it helped save my marriage and I am so glad I did the work to do so! I wish you much happiness and luck.

If you made up your mind and do not feel love anymore for him, then why are taking so much time to tell him, in actual fact, he really merits it.
Crushed, don't think more, this is a decision which you ought to have taken long ago.
If you can't get courage to tell him now, you will never...

I agree with Elena

I do not agree with Elena.You should give your husband a chance.It is true that you have been through a difficult period because of him but you must give him a chance.Look at what he is trying to do to please you and also think about your son.

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Wow, I am very sad for your husband. He is trying to change himself and you are going to leave him. Can’t you give him another chance? For me a person who tries to change so as to save his or her relationship is a person that I respect. Think about it. Don’t hurry.