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Old 08-14-2006, 05:36 PM
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My husband loves going to casinos - he gambles quite a lot. We enjoy a good standard of living - but he spends quite some money in casinos,

And recently, most of his time is spent there. My children and me feel neglected.

I tried so many times to talk to him, explained to him that what he was doing is wrong - but his reply was that i was stopping him doing his only hobby,

Please help me, what do i do? If this goes on, we will be left with no money!!!
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Old 08-15-2006, 07:27 AM
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Nowadays, more and more people are gambling. Is this an escape to the real life? My dear friend, you should get your husband out of this so-called disease before its too late. Once someone starts gambling, he slowly but surely gets addicted to it. And then, almost impossible, to drag him out of that.

For the sake of your children and your couple, help your husband. Make him try new things, pamper him, give him all your love, take him out for a candle light dinner, show him how he has a caring wife!

Otherwise, the situation will worsen.
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Old 08-16-2006, 06:45 AM
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Your husband is going off track, he would be doomed if he continues to lead on the casino path way.
You should expain to him that his hobby is becomming an addiction, a gambling habit which tearing apart the family relationship.
why do you say that you will be left with no money? he should first take care of his responsibilities, home expenses and savings for his children's future, not wasting it all in gambling, so it's your duty to bring him back to his sense, if needed, you can even threaten him to divorce.
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Old 08-23-2006, 07:14 AM
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Gambling is an addiction that can quickly spiral out of control. As an ex gambler I know that gambling is all consuming. When you are addicted, its like a drug addict, you look forward to your next fix. If she can convince him that he is losing his family, you may be able to convince him to go to gamblers anonymous, an organization which understands the addiction.......
good luck, life aint easy.....
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Old 08-24-2006, 06:10 PM
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Hi Sos.I do not have a solution to your problem but I want you to know that I am with you.You should try your best to get your husband out of this hell and thus save your family from a certain destruction.Do not try to put too much pressure on him as he might run away from you and involves himself more into this spiral.
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Old 08-25-2006, 11:34 AM
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You can also take help of your children, tell them to talk to their dad and show him how much they care and do not want him to gamble anymore.
This would probably make some change in him
If he does not agree then you should take him to a counseller which would treat him. But do not leave him in this state.
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Old 08-26-2006, 02:19 PM
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Hi Sos.I will suggest you to try to find some other things that could change the mind of your husband.If he keep telling you that gambling is only a hobby for him perhaps giving another thing to do could change his mind.
Try to go out more often in family or do some thing that you never did before.

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Old 09-17-2006, 07:57 AM
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quite complicated your problem. he does not even want to talk about it and also does not want to quit by his own will. quite a problem here.
good luck.
cant find something better than that.
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Old 04-09-2007, 10:39 AM
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If it’s his hobby, why doesn’t he play free trial on the net, he won’t be losing any money at all and he would play what he like to play. You could also buy the game and put it in your home and he could play all alone. This is such an unhealthy hobby for a person to have. Make him stop before you find yourself without anything, without even a house to live in.
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Old 04-10-2007, 07:11 AM
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you should take your husband out of it as sooon as possible try to go out with him make a family outing so that he will remain busy perhaps he will stop going to the casino look out for things which will entertain him through the whole day dont give hime the opportunity to remain idle the moment you will be left alone he will think of gouing there again.
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