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08-07-2006, 10:35 AM
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Shasta here from Ireland…25 just get married since two months ..but already Fed up with marriage. I would advise you girls not to get married at an early age you can still get married at 28 or 29... well heres my problem am a graduate in sociology …my husband is a doctor..we have been married since two months but am unhappy I live with his whole family his parents, sisters, brother in law, sister in law..and when I cook I must cook for his whole family and after work am really tired..sometimes they make all sorts of remarks the food is not good, this should be cook that should be cook……am damn tired ..i want to live alone with my husband but he wants to remain with his family…..if he continues like that I will be In the obligation to ask for a divorce that would be sad but don’t have any choice…
your opinion please 
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08-07-2006, 03:10 PM
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I think that the immediate idea of thinking about divorce is NOT really wise. ADAPTATION is a longterm process as maybe you know it better than me.... I can understand that you are in a complex situation but why not try to wait and try to let time pass.. It is normal that your husband won't change his mind in just two months..Try to think a bit more positive..
Cheers!!!
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08-11-2006, 05:53 PM
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Well it isnt easy and he has to grow up, but your not being fair either didnt you knwo he was going to live with them before you married him. Well it takes 2 to make and break a marriage. Is ay talk to him and let him know that you dont want to live with them and see what he says. You have only been married 2 months adn can get an annulment but there is no rush to divorce without stoppign and talking first and be calm!
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08-14-2006, 06:13 AM
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Hi
Well you knew well before marriage he was going to live with his family. It’s too early you see 2 months of course he won’t want to leave his family. A bit patience and see if things change . If not explain to him what you are going through. Concerning the household works why don’t you hire a maid to cook food and clean the house. Like that you won’t be tired and concerning the food, their will be no complains well just hope !!!.During weekends, go out with your husband go to restaurants or spend the weekends in a hotel.
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08-22-2006, 06:12 PM
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I can understand what you are going through - cause my friend has been through the same situation. Can i ask you something? You did know that after your wedding, u'll stay with his family, then? Divorce is not the solution my dear. You both work, so why not shifting in an appartment? At least, its gonna be only both of you. Did you talk to him about that matter? what does he say?
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08-23-2006, 05:55 AM
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This is unfair, you work all day and when back home have to cook food for the entire family, they are taking advantage of your silence. You should not spoil your relation with your husband only beause of this, you should make the point with them, either they help you in the kitchen or they prepare their own dinner and you prepare yours, you are not a robot to do everything yourself!
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09-11-2006, 02:19 PM
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Shasta one thing that I want to know did you know before marriage that you will be living with such a big family.If yes then you will have to respect their condition but if you were not aware then you have every right to talk to your husband about that.
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09-11-2006, 04:24 PM
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Bamboo, don't you think that even if she knew that she would live with all the family, it doesn't mean that she has to cook for them all? She got married to her husband only, not to the family...
Shasta aren't there other persons who can cook to help you? This is surely boring and i understand that you are tired about all those things
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09-13-2006, 07:43 AM
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patience is the key to success...maybe he is too much in his work that he don't know what is really happening..the only way is to go and talk to him even if he doesn't listen to you..some words will get into his mind and step by step he will think of that..
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09-27-2006, 02:25 PM
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I think that the best thing to do in this situation is to talk to your husband.Tell him that you will not be able to bear this situation any longer.
You must tell him that you have your work too and that you cannot keep on cooking for the all family.
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