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Old 07-08-2006, 11:05 AM
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My friend is very close to his brothers and sisters. Well, they really do help each other out. He will be jobless in a month so his older brother asked him what business he wants to put up and he is willing to help him financially. But his wife is hesitating to accept the help because according to her, what if the business doesn't prosper, then his brother may blame them. Even if he doesn't, it would be embarrassing to put his money to waste. Do you think his wife has a point?
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Old 07-18-2006, 08:47 AM
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The wife is wrong coz what does she know about business which the brother intend to put up. She should encourage them in their effort to work together.
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Old 07-18-2006, 08:49 AM
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She should never interfere in her husbands business, i know that what he will earn will be beneficial for both of them but still, she has to be on his side no matter what decision he takes!
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Old 07-26-2006, 12:02 PM
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Before they even started a partnership, she was already negative and pessimiste. His hubby is already jobless, she should have find this as a golden opportunity to get him out of the dark.

And she should be thankful to her brother-in-law for this kind proposal.
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Old 08-11-2006, 04:25 PM
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Her issue appears to be HER pride. Pride is a good thing but if taken to an extreme can cause unnecessary suffering.

When my wife was pregnant with our 1st child, I didn't make that much money and she didn't work at all. We actually qualified for public assistance. Our pride prevented us from asking/taking money from family or to go on public assistance.

To get the things we needed to take care of a newborn, I sold plasma for $25 a pop.

I kept my pride, but was the suffering/poverty worth it. at that time, I would say "yes". Looking back at it, I'm not too sure. Our pride may have caused us unnecessary suffering.

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Old 08-17-2006, 09:04 AM
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Before they even started a partnership, she was already negative and pessimiste. His hubby is already jobless, she should have find this as a golden opportunity to get him out of the dark.

And she should be thankful to her brother-in-law for this kind proposal.
It would be great if she could analysis things as you did, alas, she is worried about her reputation and slelf image. Such bad attitudes are not good, they can prove to be quite dangerous and create problems between themselves.
Why does women always have negative thinkings???
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Old 08-30-2006, 01:02 PM
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I can understand his wife helplessness, she does not want something to happen and that her husband gets all the blames, i have often seen family and relatives getting problems and fighting to each other only because of money matters.
And she is afraid for such thing to happen in her family too, we should not ignore her point of view.
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Old 09-09-2006, 01:32 PM
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I understand the wife point of view that the relatives can blame her husband.But what she must know that very often business is a gamble you never know whether you will win or lose.It is up to you to decide.
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Old 09-14-2006, 05:03 PM
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But why investing money on a business which will not prosperate, this does not make sense, atleast he should be 90% sure and of what he will be doing!
For the money i think he should accept his brothers help as they were the one to propose or help and this is a very good deed, this shows how much the brothers and sisters care for each other!
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Old 09-28-2006, 02:08 PM
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I think that both parners should sit down and talk on this subject.On one hand the guy will be jobless in a month and therefore without money.On the other hand the brother is proposing his help.
I think that they should accept the help provided they know what they are doing.
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