Until they are sure about their decision, they should not mention anything to the kids for the moment. Coz this would already create a frustration in the kids. So, until they come to their final decision, it is only a matter for the adults and the children comes forward once the decision is taken. They better try to reconcile for the sake of the kids.

This shows how the kids are concerned about the relationship of their parents. Like Rochelle is saying it's right. don't confused the kids for the moment coz if they would get divorced the kids would undergo a lot of trauma so for the time being until they are fixed, don't show their problems to much to the kids.

I think that they should comfort the children by telling them the truth because they are unsure of their decision.They should try to talk both of them and sort their problem out as this will affect their children.
They will have to make a big effort on this.

How old are the children? Indeed, they are concerned by whats happening. But i dont think that the parents should make it as everything is fine! I agree with youyou - better tell the children the truth. i have noticed that adults, who are supposed to be mature and responsible people, get married on a trial basis and on top of that, coceive. By the end of the day, when they quarell, its children who suffer the most!

Hi dendra.I think the best thing to do in this situation is sit down and talk calmly.If they feel that they cannot continue this relationship it will be better for them to divorce.If they think that they could save their marriage it will be better for them and the children that they go and seek help from a counsellor.

__________________
After eating, do amphibians have to wait one hour before getting out of the water?

The problem to be serious at the point or not to be the serious at all does not mean it will have to be to the relationship. A relationship is to have some prolems from time to time otherwise it is not call a relationship.The relationship you said you are heading to a divorce. Then there is a way to get out of the relationship of divorce.

__________________
uhmm

I think that the problems is not with the kids but with the parents.If they are not sure whether they will divorce or not how the children will know?They should first try to save their marriage because this will affect both their own life and the life of their kids.They better not tell the children anything until they sort out their problems first.

I agree with happyfeet and mackie, something will not be clear to children if they're not clear even for the parents... And I think they should tell them that they're just having some problems but that divorce is not yet the thing they're talking about... Just the truth..

i think that divorce affects the children the most so if she is planning something alike then she should just try telling them that they are getting divorce so that they accept this fact and for problems not to be created afterwards.