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06-16-2006, 07:49 AM
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i'm currently dating a divorced lady. i love her immensely, even if i am still learning to respect her for the person she is rather than judging her on the fact that she is divorced.
i invited her over at my place for dinner the other, i cleaned, cooked and did all that is possible to please her. when the doorbell rang, i opened the door to find myself face to face with my lady....and her 2 kids. they came in, the kids hiding half of themselves behind their mom. i was pretty shocked but caught up fast. once they were in the kids were very hesitant but finally, through dinner and the rest, they started opening up and growing comfortable. so comfortable that at a certain point i felt like i was a married man and already had 2 kids!  but to top off the whole shock of the thing, her little daughter, Lizzie, sweet doll of 2 years  called me Dad  how do i deal with this when i'm not even sure yet if i want to marry this woman?!!!  
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06-19-2006, 12:22 PM
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sure is tough to tell a little sweetheart like that to stop calling you dad! it might just break her precious little heart!!!!! i think you should be extremely careful in this situation. talk to your girlfriend and tell her that you're not sure yet that her kids should be calling you Dad. being the mother, she should be able to explain to the child in a loving manner that calling you Dad is just not right (for the moment!
 ). i think your girlfriend mustn't have made it clear enough to the kids about what's happening between the two of you. talk to her before she starts expecting you to propose!!!!!
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06-22-2006, 10:33 AM
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i don't think that is a good idea for the mother to come along with the kids coz like u said u r still on the dating stage, u haven't yet decided on anything. You should talk to the mother first. Concerning that fact that the child calling u dad , don't worry muh about that coz if the child don't see u often, they won't feel much close until u decide eventually what u gonna do.
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08-24-2006, 09:09 AM
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Hey, how was the dinner? :))
Did you enjoy the small time you had with them, do you miss them and want to see them again? If yes, then you really love them and ready to accept them, if not then you should take your own time.
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"Watching your daughter being collected by her date feels like handing over a million dollar Stradivarius to a gorilla."
Jim Bishop
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09-15-2006, 11:32 AM
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Deal with it in the same way as you are doing now, no need to talk about marriage and if ever she ask you about it, tell her that you are not ready yet and that you are not sure about this relation.
The best will be to tell her the truth, no to have guilty feelings.
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