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06-12-2006, 12:52 PM
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My brother was addicted to alcohol, but he never hit his wife or kids. His inlaws think that he is unfit to be with their daughter and grandchildren and they are pressuring her to leave him. My brother was very much affected by this decision. His wife is now in a 50-50 situation. She doesn’t know what to do. Either listen to her parents and leave or stay back with my brother. He is trying his best to drop his habit of drinking. He has joined many rehab centres, therapy groups and is doing a slow progress. But his wife tells u s that she isnot so sure that he will make it clean someday and that she cannot wait a whole lifetime to see him getting out of his addiction. she says she has to protect her kids from their father so that they donot turn into alcoholics also. She is being so stubborn on her points. She isnot even seeing that my brother needs her support and the kids support tp come out of his problem. How can we make her see the right things? She is too blinded by her parents obstinacy to get her separated from her husband/ we want her to give him another chance and to be there to help him out. We only want to save their marriage from breaking but how?
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06-13-2006, 11:58 AM
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this is unfair to him. in such a time he needs the support of wife and kids to overcome his drawback, why the inlaws cnt see that. his wife is getting carried away by her parents... this is not what she must do as a wife.
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06-23-2006, 06:56 AM
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He had done a lot of efforts to drop drinking so she should stay with him and help him to get out of this. She musn't listen to her parents, what do they know?? nothing!! Her husband doesn't want to loose her or else he wouldn't have gone to rehab center!!
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06-23-2006, 12:13 PM
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bart the problem is wiz ur problem not wiz the wife..its difficullt to leave with a drunkard...i think you are being selfish you are not worying about their marriage bout bout your brother...the wife is free to take any decision,..
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06-26-2006, 04:59 AM
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It's hard to be objective when it's your brother you are talking about. To be fair, let them seat together with you. Urge the wife to him one more chance and set a limit, a date when she can decide to leave him. Then tell your brother that he must do it or else he will lose his wife. That should be motivation enough to try very hard to stop the habit.
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06-27-2006, 11:22 AM
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family support is the most immportant thing when one goes for rehab and i see that your brother is not getting that from his family.i think she doesnt want to give him a chance as she doesnt trust him that he will be able to leave it or not
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07-31-2006, 08:55 AM
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Life doesn't make sense sometimes. You can have everything in the world and you can just make stupid choices! That's just life...
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07-31-2006, 10:03 AM
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It's not only the wife who is stubborn but the hubby too. Can't he see that this addiction is going to ruin his family. I understand that he has to rehab center however he has to make the necessary effort on his side to get out of it. The wife can't be there for support while he is not doing anything.
She has all the right to walk away inorder to protect her kids.
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08-31-2006, 09:14 PM
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you may be right, but i believe the husband should make extra effort to get back to his family. In such matters his wife should also support him and believe in him. Thi in laws are being too adamant and overeacting, they should not take their daughter's decision!
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