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Old 06-12-2006, 12:32 PM
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i am milly. i am 20 yrs old. i want to tell about the thing i regret the most in my life. it was my parents getting divorce because of my foolishness. i was a very bad girl when i was younger, i used to run away from home a lot and came back after one week or more. my father always said that my mother was pampering me a lot and that she is the reason why i became such a brat. i would takl badly to them , shout at thme and never listen to their talks. my mother cried many times to me, but i was too much into my other life outside home that her tears had no effect on me. my father's family didnot like my mum and when i turned into a very bad girl, they accused my mum, they threw her out of the house and told my father to divorce her. my family is very traditional and conservative, they hate scandals, i was sent abroad to study and never saw my mum again. i later learnt that she has left the country. now i miss her a lot.and i regret that i made her suffer.i am at university now but i want to leave and go to look for my mother, i want to work, get moeny to find her.
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Old 06-12-2006, 04:45 PM
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You will learn in time to respect your mother, she is the one that gave birth to you and raised you!
I had to learn to respect my mother because she was not the very best person in the world, but she is my mother. It is hard if your mother does not show an interest in you but if she does then you have just simple taken advantage of her!
If you want to find your mom that's fine, but if she left the country what makes you think she wants to be found?
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Old 06-12-2006, 05:37 PM
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first thing you should know is that it's not your mom's fault that you grew up like that... I am curious though as to why you would run away all the time... was it because of them fighting?? or was it because you just wanted to go out for a while and come back a week later??
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Old 06-13-2006, 09:02 AM
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do you realise that your behaviour took your mother away from you? why do you want to stop studies, finish it, become someone in life and then you will have better means to find her.
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Old 06-14-2006, 01:54 AM
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sad-dave has a point... finish your studies first then earn your money... after that that's when you look for your mom... but be prepared for the worst because you don't know what has happened to her ever since...
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Old 06-14-2006, 03:04 AM
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Don't blame everything on yourself. It could have contributed but they were more responsible than you were. If your dad fought for their marriage, maybe he would not have permitted his family to throw her out. As to your behavior, I wonder what made you behave like that. Now that you realized your mistake, you can make it up to her. But make sure you don't ruin your future too. It will take some money to find her. Do not just leave your studies like that. Finish studies first and find yourself a job. In the meantime, you can find out what you can through her friends in your area. Maybe you can contact her through them.
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Old 06-26-2006, 07:42 PM
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go away for a week?what were you thinking at that time that was it going to get out some result.someone must be having the knowledge of your mother's place
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Old 06-27-2006, 07:51 AM
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hi this is life my dear but u did realise ur mistake and doing what u have done before is not the reason 4 the divorce the pro is ur dad s family they are just "nut" n the blame is not ur /so cheer up sad-dave is right so come on finish it then go check 4 her
but crazy me does ur mum want u back or wouldn't it b simple without her in ur life n u in her (/what just asking)
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Old 06-28-2006, 05:43 AM
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Do not just leave your studies like that. Finish studies first and find yourself a job. In the meantime, you can find out what you can through her friends in your area. Maybe you can contact her through them.
you could do this... it's the best idea I've seen so far...
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Old 07-02-2006, 01:23 PM
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I agree, perhaps this is what you should do. And about the divorce of your parents, it was not your fault. The problem was between your parents and the way your granparents meddled in their relationship.
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