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Old 06-12-2006, 10:37 AM
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I have been with this guy for 2 years and now I feel that the relationship Is nomore breathing. We seem so much engrossed in building our careers that we don’t have time for each other. We have demanding jobs and it is getting in the way. When I am at home, he is on a mission abroad and when he is there, I am tied up with some important campaign. We barely get to see each other in mornings or evenings and not enough time. We talk on the phone for barely 2mins. What kind of life is this. Its like we are dragging tis relationship with us everywhere. When people see us at parties,(which is rare) they are amazed that we are still together. And now even I am thinking whether it is fair to both of us to be still together. Maybe we could just be friends, and that would reduce the expectations that are there as a couple, this might make things more easy to handle. I am planning to move out of the flat we had rented a year ago. But I don’t know how to tackle the situation or announce it to him. He may think that I am seeing another guy or that I am doubting him. But I only want us to have a short break up and then we can see if we still feel like we did before. Otherwise this pause will help us realsie how much feelings is there left between us and if it is reason enough for us to be together.
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Old 06-12-2006, 05:59 PM
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what you can do first is to tell him ask him how you feel about your status in your relationship... if he's in sync with what you feel then you can make your suggestions and end it just like that...
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Old 06-13-2006, 11:32 AM
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why dont you take a breather and remain goo dfriends.when you move out, you can cal up and talk more, find time out for dinners and dates... things like that.while staying together you will find that such things acn never happen because you are both in the same place. maybe taking your own flat wont be that bad.
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Old 06-14-2006, 02:10 AM
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yeah that's true... living in at an early age isn't a good idea anyway... it only helps you be independent...
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Old 06-14-2006, 08:37 AM
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You really need to talk to him about your feelings. He has to understand that it's not a relationship that your having!!! Maybe he would like to find a solution for u 2 but think that the most important first its your career and that you have to be concentrate on it. You're taking a very good decision!!
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Old 06-14-2006, 10:20 AM
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yes girl, think about your life, your career first.there you will meet many people later on in life, but once you let your career's prime time go away, you wont get it back and you will end up in regrets. and who knows maybe the 2 of you were not cut for each other... like me and my horrible ex hubby!
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Old 06-14-2006, 10:36 AM
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you already know the problem inside out, you already have the solutions. all you need now is a good shove. good luck!
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Old 06-15-2006, 10:28 AM
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are you sure you want to take a break? dont you think your relationship might never exist after that?you'l be sorry later. i guess its nt that late to solve things, forget about the break, 'cause for guys, taking a break is equal to ending the relationship... think well
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Old 06-15-2006, 04:30 PM
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oh let them take a break.. maybe if they stayed away for a while they will realize they need each other and go back... if not then at least you can file a divorce that doesn't have to be very messy...
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Old 06-15-2006, 09:49 PM
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Building your life with someone takes money! And at least you are focused on your future!
I would stick it out if you are still in love with this man, and if it gets worse then the choice is up to you!
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