i don't think only explanation will help in this kind of situation. Kids needs to feel secure, protected, and get affection from both parents. They rebells coz they feel threatened by the fact that their parents are getting divorced. So parents needs to re-assure their kids through love and lots of affection too

u can't expect the kids to sit down properly and behave as wonderfully as u wanted him to be without having him to express his frustration towards ur divorce. it's pretty unfair on ur part. u have imposed a sort of stree on him and he is reaction. as simple as that

it is good that kids rebells to show that they are unhappy and in a way express and remove the maximum frustration at this stage coz they might feel better and eventually this does not cause a big problem for them in the adult stage

I guess Cinderella is right but if they rebel in a destructive way like go into drugs or alcoholism, you have to be alert to correct these things immediately.

I agree. You have to explain things to them. Then actions should acconpany it to reassure them that your love and attention is still there for them.

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Maybe it's their way to show that they're not happy about the divorce...and it's comprehensible!! after all children feel threatened by a divorce and feel that the parents don't love them anymore coz they're imposing the divorce on them..

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Completely true, they can't explain or change their parent's decision, that is why they do behave in such a way to show their unhappiness and melancholy.

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Depending the behavior of the parents also, i agree that the seperation of their parents shocked them as they loved both their parents and it bugs them that they would have to live seperately from the one they love, so in this difficult moments, they should not be left alone but should be more cherished and cared, only then they would not be frustrated.

this all depends on values. if good values are instilled in kids fron very young age they will never rebel but if they have been pampered excessively then whatever may happen they will surely rebel.