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Old 06-09-2006, 10:52 AM
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my brother saw his girlfriend(rhey are engaged) with her ex in a cafe., he is so upset about the whole thing now., he thinks that she is seeing him again., and he fears that she may wnat him back and that he is going to lose her., he didnt amrch upto them when he saw them., because he didnt want to embarass her., but he says she is cheating on him and that he is sure she wants to braeak up.,
i told him to talk to her and find out., but he refuses to tell her he saw her., he wants to find out on his own if she is cheating really., but i fear that if he suspects her., he is going to braeak a good relationship - she will hate him.

how do i make him understand that he could be wrong?
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Old 06-09-2006, 11:39 AM
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your brother is blowing things out of proportion. tell him to cool down and talk to the girl. maybe she jsut happened to meet her ex by chance.............it could be unplanned.why do guy s always have doubts like this, show some trust, we are not bad....we expect a certain degree of trust too.
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Old 06-09-2006, 04:14 PM
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I agree with kissa... he's jumping into conclusions too much...if he wants to investigate fine but make sure that you're a part of what he does... be the middle man in this... if you find out that everything is just a coincidence at least you both know about it at the same time...
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Old 06-10-2006, 10:16 PM
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It's normal to get jealous...If he wants to find out what is happening let him...But tell him to keep an open mind...He must not think that she wants a break up...
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Old 06-11-2006, 06:27 AM
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He must give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe she has some logical explanation. Anyway, maybe it's better that he's trying to find out the truth. If he's wrong then his mind will rest.
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Old 06-11-2006, 09:57 AM
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He has to talk to her. I think if she finds out that he is investigating behind her back, it will hurt her. He has to consider her side, if it turns out that he's wrong.
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Old 06-12-2006, 08:08 AM
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He has to calm down and think of the proper way to handle his suspicions. I think he must just go ahead and ask her.
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Old 06-12-2006, 06:10 PM
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I say put a friend in the middle of girlfriend and pawz so that he can collect both sides of the story and find out the truth without hurting anybody...
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Old 06-13-2006, 09:03 AM
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I say put a friend in the middle of girlfriend and pawz so that he can collect both sides of the story and find out the truth without hurting anybody...

i agree with that- a neutral person will be a better choice.
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Old 06-14-2006, 02:12 AM
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just remember that the neutral person has to remain calm and unsuspicious if you want the secret investigation to work... finding out about the mistrust can hurt a girl...
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