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Old 04-21-2006, 04:36 AM
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my friend wants to have a baby when she gets married but her boyfriend is so career driven that he doesn't want to have one...he says it will only hinder them from moving forward in their careers...is his reasoning correct? should she change her views regarding this for her boyfriend?
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Old 04-22-2006, 03:04 PM
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no this is not right she must try to change her boy friends attitude towards it
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Old 04-22-2006, 06:13 PM
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Personaly I feel the child should get the best,probably the boyfriend has a point worth a second thought.
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Old 06-08-2006, 08:56 AM
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well what is this guy working for??? i think he is being very selfish!! the whole point of being successfull in your carreer is so that you can provide a good life for your kids!! FAMILY COMES FIRST!! most of the world most successful people all have kids..i think he is just using it as a excuse cause he is scared of the commitment!
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Old 06-10-2006, 03:13 AM
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Maybe he has not seen this point yet. When a person is still young or immature, all he thinks of is himself. She must make him realize how important children is going to be in their lives.
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Old 06-10-2006, 05:37 AM
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Yeah, maybe it's only at the start when he would feel this way. Later on he will realize all of his hardwork would mean more if he had children to work for. She should give him more time to change his mind.
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Old 06-10-2006, 08:10 AM
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If the guy would not change his vews, maybe he's not the guy suited for her.
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Old 06-10-2006, 10:49 PM
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Since they are not yet married she has the choice to just forget about the idea of the baby or forget her boyfriend. Or she could also try to convince him ever so slowly to agree to have children in the future. If it doesn't work, she's back to the two choices. I guess she has to choose whatever holds more value to her.
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Old 06-11-2006, 09:43 PM
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I think it's her right to want children...If he doesn't want any maybe he's not the one for her...Of course, she can try to persuade him but unless he changes his mind she may be better off with another guy...
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Old 07-05-2006, 10:54 AM
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I agree..it's understandable she wants to have a family and a child of her own..and the man sure seems selfish to think it would affect their career..of course they'll face some difficulties in pregnancy and childbirth but it's really worth it when you see the little angel..and he should be aware that women can't make children when they get older..this will give rise to complications..
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