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Old 03-22-2006, 07:48 AM
lunis lunis is offline
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I have a friend wo wants to break up with her long time boyfriend. When I asked her why. She said she met someone better, someone more good looking. She said her current boyfriend is ok but he just isn't that good looking like the other guy. It made me think, should looks really matter? I mean if you love someone, you just accept him for what he is and what he looks like. Why does this friend of mine have to leave her boyfriend just because the other guy is good looking?
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Old 03-22-2006, 11:48 AM
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I agree that love is blind though looks matter in the first meeting,as the relationship progresses it matters the least.So much so that one can see a not so good looking partner as a great looking one,first hand experience I can say.
The reason for leaving may be different but things could sound logical this way I guess.
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Old 03-22-2006, 11:51 AM
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When I first met my guy, I didn't find him very attractive at all. But then, I realized his "flaws" were the good parts of him and over time came to love them and even become attached to them. For instance, his legs were extremely hairy and I don't really like guys who are overly hairy.. but I got over it and used to just rub his calves for him sometimes to just feel the hair.

Looks -do- matter, ironically. If you don't find someone attractive, then you don't have that side of a relationship. In my opinion to have a healthy relationship you need to have the looks (of some sort) and the personality so you connect on the physical and mental levels of your relationship.
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Old 03-22-2006, 02:13 PM
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It shouldnt matter but of course first appearance you see him its physical attraction. She may want to question herself what she saw in her current boyfriend that attracted her to him. She should not be naive in dumping one for another better looking guy it has to be more to the story.
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Old 03-23-2006, 06:15 AM
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Her reason for leaving him is quite shallow. However, I also believe that at the beginning of a relationship or getting to know each other, there should be some attraction. But later, you'll need so much more than that for your relationship to survive.
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Old 03-23-2006, 08:34 AM
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I also think it all begins with some kind of attraction. But to compare and base one's decisions solely on looks is crazy.
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Old 03-23-2006, 12:46 PM
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that might not be the exact reason for leaving her current b/f. Maybe they were just going out with each other becasue they were lonley and were just "together" she may never have found him attractive. There are a lot of things that contribtue to being "good looking" when you see a man who takes care of himself, his family, he's very out going that is better looking for some people. It could be your friend has just decided it was time to move on.
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Old 03-23-2006, 01:16 PM
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That's a bit weird.. I guess people need to connect on physical AND mental levels, so it's understandable, but if he's a great guy and -really- gives her what she needs I don't think she'd leave him, so I guess she's just not getting what she wants/needs.
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Old 03-30-2006, 10:45 AM
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i wud say ur friend is in an infatuation...true love does nt go madly for looks as ur friend is doing it now....she shud realise tht wht she is doing rieght now is wrong...wht if her new boyfriend leaves her for someone else who i smore pretty..........
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Old 04-03-2006, 03:10 PM
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i know how look matters when a person gets married and got a beautiful wife he is on sky but after some years if she lost little glory it makes him think she is not beautiful and goes to other women
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