if you can't mend it, what good is therapy?

I agree with you though, once betrayed, trust will never fully be regained.

Probably not. My relationship with my wife is ok on the outside, but inside I have resentment bottled up still over what she did, and I probably always will.

I will never trust her again, but I'm trying like hell because I won't want my kids to have a broken home. So in a sense, I'm swallowing pride for them.

But it doesn't change the fact that I don't trust her anymore and never will.

Needless to say the things she use to do, like make me stay home with the kids while she went out with friends, is over. And if she doesn't like it, she knows where the door is.

Now if this was just a bf of yours, or a husband with no kids, you might want to consider leaving him. Its up to you, but thats just my take on it.

Certainly not according to me, though trust is one of the most important things.
If your trust has already been broken, then it's hard to re-build he complete trust, and this, even if your partner has managed to convince you in some way. Your own conviction, that one inside you, in your heart and mind, might stay the same, or might change - if you yourself ever decide to do it.Personally, like Salicious Crumb, if it were for reasons like children etc, I would make efforts, but if I had no other reasons to keep my pride inside, i don't think I would have made it.

You can forgive anyone for anything,but the forgiveness will naturally not give you back the trust you now lack for the person. Now forgiveness is important in a relationship, but the most important is trust, and once it's be broken, try as hard as you can this trust could be rebuilt even at 98%, but never completely. This is because you don't forget, and when you don't forget you've got images of the cheating in your mind + you create other images...This doesn't help at all in gaining back trust fully again.

well if the husband is really sorry for what he has done and he wants to be forgiven then i think that he should be given a chance but i would like to know why do husbands or wives cheat when they are aware that they are married and they do not have the right to do such things!!!!!!??

hey this isn't cool why is this whole forum when "he cheated"... i resent that statement!!! women are capable of cheating too!

Because they are selfish bi!tches and arseholes....thats why.

I agree with you on that part. They must really be dumb and selfish for doing such things.

Obviously guys, there are still some people who don't know what love is and what marriage means. You should better find out what marital life means and demands before saying YES just coz u r in luv.

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No sorry,once a cheater alway's a cheater,and i mean that it will alway's be in your thoughts,breaking up is so difficult but may alway's be the thing to do ,for your own sanity.