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Old 03-21-2006, 03:04 PM
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Personally, I know I have. I have a really good friend Terry, who I'd consider to be one if not my only best friend, but I do know that I've used him in some ways to get certain things that I want/need or to just make my boyfriend jealous so he acts the way I want to.. I regret some of them, but we are still good friends so I don't think I've been overly bad about doing it
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Old 03-22-2006, 05:15 AM
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I 've used my friends before, im not proud of it but i am man enough to admit it. Sometimes i can't control myself i just seem to sorta manipulate people with out even realizing it.
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Old 03-22-2006, 03:18 PM
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Hey, using friends is not bad as long as they dont feel that they are being used. I have used my friends. I have helped my friends. May be they would also think that they have used me.
But I have seen many people who use somebody and dump. That is not fair.
Seeking help cannot be treated as using. Using is like being selfish.
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Old 03-22-2006, 05:33 PM
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I 've used my friends before, im not proud of it but i am man enough to admit it. Sometimes i can't control myself i just seem to sorta manipulate people with out even realizing it.
Good on you! It's nice to see people able to admit things. I, like you, am not proud of things I've done, either. And I know what you mean about manipulation... Been down that road many times and I don't realize it either. I think people just perceive wrong?
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Old 03-22-2006, 05:34 PM
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Hey, using friends is not bad as long as they dont feel that they are being used. I have used my friends. I have helped my friends. May be they would also think that they have used me.
But I have seen many people who use somebody and dump. That is not fair.
Seeking help cannot be treated as using. Using is like being selfish.
This is true. I think it's cool when you can openly be like: Hey I need you to help me with this. But then if you pay it back or help them later, I think it's all cool. But that goes with more than friends, I think that's with people in general
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Old 03-22-2006, 08:20 PM
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Who can honestly say they havn't used their friends? Alot of the time friendship can be about sharing different talents, i can program very well in php but my friend can't, so i help him, in areas where i am not strong he helps me, this is a less subtle way of using friends to help yourself. There is nothing wrong with that.
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Old 03-23-2006, 11:49 AM
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I think all of us in some way have used our friends or family indirectly, or not. It's just a part of life - trying to find and do the things we want / need to do. It's just a lot of the time we need other peoples' help to do them.
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Old 05-18-2006, 12:13 PM
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yes our friends helps us if they are sincere with us , a true friend help u &that is not a bad thing to take help from friends
"friendship is like a tree u give a lot of water it will grow"
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Old 05-18-2006, 04:59 PM
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i will use my friends if i feel i m helpless than i take a help from my friends
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and the friend is the blessing of god
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Old 05-30-2006, 05:43 AM
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I never did that...but if someday i really need help and i really don't know how to do i'm sure that if i ask my best friend she will never tell me "no", but i will never use her without asking her before..
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