I have two daughters aged 4 and 8 years . Around 3 years ago , I had requested my ex-husband if he could take residential custody of them since, I was doing masters in finance and the requirements that I needed to give would put too much strain on them. The situation would have been that they would have had to be more with a babysitter than any child should ever had to be.
Thus, I thought that since, my ex-husband was having a stable relationship as he was engaged and also building a house of his own , he would be thus able to provide a more stable environment for my daughters. Since he has moved 3 times and has been engaged thrice.
I had graduated this past June in spite of the knock down being risked against me, and losing my family had come to me as a blow! But now I am seeing that he is backing out of the county jurisdictions that we both had agreed on in our contract. It use to take me 15 minutes to pick them up to an 1 hour 10 minutes. He even registered the youngest daughter aged 4 years in a private school for pre-kindergarden instead of having her tested and placed in Kindergarten because his fiances' son is 5 as well and enrolled my daughter over there. I have spent my major time with my two daughters and now, suddenly , he is making a boundary by limiting the amount of time that now I get to spend with them, and is also limiting the amount of times I can talk to them throughout the week. Thus, he is trying to snatch away the freedom that I earlier had with my daughters.
If old baby sitter had not given me their new address and my ex-husbands parents who he just moved out of I would have never known about this sudden development. I am very hurt and dejected as I feel that I am being totally prohibitd from their lives. Still , I have to meet their teachers, and if it wasn't for the internet I would not have had any information on either of their schools.
To worsen the matters more, both my children now want to live with myself and their half sister who is older than them. Looking at this, I am regretting taking the time to improve my education. I was doing so that I would be able to provide a much more stable environment for them while I was in school, and since, the school was to be able to offer them a better lifestyle. Instead it is so that I now walk into work everyday regretting my decision to further go ahead with my education and complete my masters . I now have my degree but not my daughters who I love very much or my family. I wish it were the other way around I had my daughters and not my degre.
I am totally lost and am looking out for someone who could advice me on this matter, Pls Help!!!!
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