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03-21-2006, 02:42 PM
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As a child, when in a tantrum I'd kick and scream and say how my sister wasn't my sister. At age 11, I found out she's my half sister. I was crushed. And sometimes, I still don't know how to react. I love her with all my heart, always, but I wish my parents had told me sooner.
My advice to any step-parents or future step-parents is to tell the kids ASAP. The sooner they know, the less hurtful it's going to be later because you will be the big bad parent who lied to them all their life. So, coming from someone who experienced this first hand, I just thought I should tell you all!  
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03-28-2006, 07:24 AM
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A 11 year old child is considered to be a bit more sensible than a 10 year old one. So, I think the age that your parents chose for you is the correct time.
Do you think a 5 year of child will understand what a half sister is? I would put you in a different situation. What if your sister is an adopted one? Would you feel shattered when you come to know this?
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03-28-2006, 01:03 PM
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i agree with passate, i think 11 years old is the perfect time to tell the child, any age younger then that you wouldnt be able to understand what your parents meant.
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03-29-2006, 04:46 AM
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Furthermore, your idea that kids won't understand is just flawed. My cousin is chineese, adopted when she was six months old. I don't know exactly when she was first told she was adopted, but for as long as I've known her (and she's been able to talk) she's know that she was adopted. And she's had no problem with that. And even though we aren't related by blood, when I think of her I don't think 'my step-cousin' or anything like that, I think 'my cousin' because that's what she is.
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03-29-2006, 08:20 AM
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good for you i am glad to see that people think of family as family regarless of blood. good for you!
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03-29-2006, 10:58 AM
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shud say the truth.....
i absolutely agree to wht u say...u should not hide such things from the kids especially u have two kids at home graowing together...otherwise it will lead to the kids hurting each other unknowingly.......
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03-30-2006, 11:44 PM
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I think if your sister is older or when she gets older, she will understand that you really didn't mean what you said. It was just the tantrum that made you say those things. And also, she knows that you didn't know that you were half sisters.
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04-01-2006, 05:54 AM
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i think you are toosmal to undrestand thats why they havent said it to you ..but now they have told you everything just relax and enjoy your life
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