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Old 08-30-2005, 07:43 AM
betty betty is offline
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Hello Everybody,
My parents don't get along well with each other, they seem to be having personal differences and I always feel like I'm in the middle. Is there any way as to I could tell them what would make this situation easier for me?

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Old 08-30-2005, 07:45 AM
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Well, there are certainly many things parents can do to try to make life easier after a divorce. There are many options to choose from , It is best if both parents stay involved with you and keep assuring you that they will always love and care for you. Still,If one of your parents moves away or does not stay in touch, it is not your fault.
It is also very important for parents to try not to put you in the middle. Since, at times, your parents may be tempted to complain about each other or have you act as a mediator between them thereby delivering messages back and forth. This may make you feel like you have to choose between your parents or that you are not being loyal enough to one of your parents. If this is happening, it is okay to tell a parent that this is upseting you.
It is important for your parents to try to get along, especially about things that directly affect you, like visiting etc.
It is best for you to have as few changes as possible, at least for a sometime. Sometimes it may be necessary for you to move and go to a new school. If this happens, tell your parents that you would like to be able to stay in touch with your friends from your old neighborhood and school.
It is possible though, that even if your parents try their best to make things easier for you, they may not be able to do all of these things all of the time. Therefore, you must always remember that your parents are also trying to deal with the changes in your family life and they may not always be as tuned in to your needs as they were before. Therefore, it is very important for you to know that learning how to express your feelings to your parents will really help to let them know what's important to you. ;)
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Old 09-16-2005, 05:28 AM
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My parents don't get along well with each other,they seem to be having personal differences and I always feel like I'm in the middle. Is there any way as to I could tell them what would make this situation easier for me?
Hi Betty,
This is really pathetic situation for u. Although veronica has suggested a no. of solution for u and all of them may help u. But i will Suggest u to discuss this matter with your parent's.Just tell them that u fill really sad because of all this developments in your family. It may help u.

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Old 09-16-2005, 06:09 AM
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Hmmm..., not a bad idea from Erin. Hey Betty, Why doesn't u try this measures. Sometimes a family meeting can help in this type of situation. Why doesn’t u suggest this to his parents?
I think all these problems arise because of communication between u and your parent's.
Along with this try to decrease the tension between your parent's. Just change the environment of your home. I think it will not help only u but also helpful in reducing tension between your parent's

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Old 10-31-2005, 08:38 AM
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My parents don't get along well with each other,they seem to be having personal differences and I always feel like I'm in the middle. Is there any way as to I could tell them what would make this situation easier for me?
Well I have seen many cases where the children feel that they are in the middle of the rift between their parents .
Well the situation is such that you interefering can make matters go better otr worse. Your parents may realise that their quarrel is having an ill effect on you & they keep u out of it but on the other hand it may also backfire . So since you know your parents well you can decide what would be best . If they are repulsive then maybe u'll have to go to someone for mediation etc .otherwise u can make things ok for u
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Old 03-10-2006, 05:50 PM
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i think what you can do is sit down with both of them and tell them how you feel...this way you will also get the side...only then will undestand each other...and maybe your parents will realize that they're hurting you too in the process...
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Old 03-10-2006, 10:21 PM
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I think talking to your parents is a good idea also. This is the only way they'll learn about your feelings.
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Old 09-26-2006, 09:25 AM
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Argentite is right.You should talk to your parents about your feelings.Tell them what you are going through with their behaviour.
Tell them that you feel that you are in middle of them and do not know what to do.
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Old 10-28-2006, 02:23 PM
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I think that you should try to find help from someone outside your family such as a teacher or a priest.In this way you can have someone to talk to and also that could act as a moderator and help to solve your problem.
In the meantime you could try to talk to your parents and make them understand that you are suffering with their behavior.
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Old 10-30-2006, 06:27 AM
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Just go to it directly. Tell them you are greatly suffering from this situation, and that as parents, they should realise they are including you in their personal problems. Maybe they are not conscious about it, being too much involved into their fights.
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