hi jane,
I empathise with your situation. I think you do stand a chance as you have
serious and substantial reason for the change of custody.

Preference of the child is also taken and for older children it does carry considerable influence.
But dont forget that an application to change the custody can be equally daunting, both emotionally and financially as you are already quite drained.

Please do think about it before you take a hasty decision.

hi,

Im a mother of four children and for me each day is a struggle. My ex-husband stopped all contacts with me and the children and now Im just about trying to make ends meet and give education to my children. My children are my biggest strengths and its because of them that I have been able to carry on with my work. They help me in all household chores and they understand my plight.. I feel blessed and they dont miss their father now .. They are very happy with me.

You can go to the court and tell them that ur ex husband doesn`t send any money anymore and that ur not in a good situation, u don`t work and its hard for u to educate ur children ... And ask to change the custody til ur situation gets better !

if the father doesnt even bother to send money for the kids,do you really think that he would bother to look after them??...i think you should hold on to your kids and make it work!! just find a way to make more money.

that kindda weird a mum not wanting her kids just because of pressure and the husband is sure not the best choice to leave the kids with as even now he dont sent money for their upbringing the mum should be the more responsible field a case against the dad and get a compensation that will help reduce some of her problem

I do not think that it will be appropriate for you to do that.As Snowman has said if a father is not bothering to send money to his children I do think that he will be able to care for their upbringing.What I will advise you is that you go and find a better paying job and care for your child yourself even if it is difficult.You will not regret it later.

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I do not get this at all, I know so many people that would give a limb to have their children with them... and you are trying to give your children away because of money?

I would say that the best thing for these children is to let them live with the other parent...

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hi jane, i guess you dont like your children, you are a mother and every mother try a way out for their children, i understand that you are finding it difficult to deal with the expenses but if you still want your children to go then you should talk to your husband about it!!!!!