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Old 03-14-2006, 11:26 PM
cicada26 cicada26 is offline
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I have a friend who's been having an affair on and of with other women. Whenever I tell him to stop this he says that it's okay. He even suspects that his wife is doing the same. But I know for a fact that his wife is so dedicated to him. She even stopped working just to take care of their children and of the household. She rarely has time for herself. Sometimes I would call her, just to chat. But she's always busy doing this and that at the house so we end up talking for just a minute or so.

Now I'm asking how can people be like this? They cheat on their wives and they think she does the same thing too, just because he does it. Couldn't they just look at themselves?
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Old 03-15-2006, 01:15 AM
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It makes them feel less guilty, that's why. If their partner is doing the same thing they'll feel they can also do the same.
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Old 04-25-2006, 10:27 AM
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that he he doesnt have any faith in himself and how do yoiu expect such a guy to have faith on his wife
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Old 04-25-2006, 10:28 AM
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they dont believe themself itself thats why they do so
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Old 04-26-2006, 01:38 PM
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you can say that not everyone gets a perfect match. at one side a person maybe a very dedicated one but on the other side the person doesnt even care for his/her partner
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Old 05-06-2006, 09:09 PM
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I think he is using it as a means of justifying what he is doing. Or, maybe he is doing it because he really believes she is. There are a multitude of reasons why people stray, there is no one answer. There is also very little hope that it will stop. They really need to talk, but from your position, you can't really say anything. If you tell her she will become upset, and may not even believe you. I guess you just pray and hope it works out for the best!
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Old 05-06-2006, 10:02 PM
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He needs to stop or he is going to lose his wife.. It is only a matter of time before she finds out..
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Old 05-08-2006, 01:16 PM
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We are humans, we are flawed, and we tell our selves what we need to hear to relieve our own feelings of regret and guilt. Then again, if I had all the answers I wouldn't be here, I'd be at home happily spending time with my wife.
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Old 05-08-2006, 02:03 PM
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I think a lot of people who cheat project their cheating - or their guilt - onto their partner. My husband always accused me of cheating when he was all the time. He is trying to justify his cheating and is probably scared that you will tell his wife.
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Old 05-09-2006, 03:56 PM
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write an anonymous letter and mail it to the wife saying you saw her husband out with another woman. I'd feel so bad for not telling my friend about the cheating, but would be scared she's hate me for it.
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