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Old 03-13-2006, 08:13 AM
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My friend who is seeing a boy now a days has a problem. Before she was going out with this guy, he was too friendly with another girl. When asked, he would deny everytime that there was nothing of this sort going on between them. Before he started going out with my friend, his relationship with that girl had soured and they were not even in talking terms. My friend had also seen him with that girl and everybody we know would discuss that they were going around.

Now my friend loves him and also, she has some qualm that this guy loved her more than he loves her. This was put into my notice by the boyfriend of my friend. He is so annoyed whenever she takes up this point saying that he loved that girl more because she was her first choice.

Is the first choice always more loved than the following relationships? I have to make her understand. Help me!
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Old 03-13-2006, 12:11 PM
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I don't think this is an issue of first and second choices,it is a matter of preferances it is better to do away with such relationships without going deep reasoning.Some times puting the truth as it is works well.
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Old 03-13-2006, 04:36 PM
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It is not a matter of whether she was his first choice or not. The guy has to show that he loves your friend. Why did he mention that she was his first choice if you said he was even denying that there had been anything between him and the other girl? His story doesn't add up. He must be hiding something or lying to your friend. I suggest that you tell your friend to be careful with him. But don't judge him so quickly though.
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Old 03-14-2006, 10:09 AM
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when its the first love...u tend to love the person so muc ans innocently....thts true...but the following relations ll be dealt with more of maturity ...thats all...tht does nt mean the love is less...but he has chosen ur friend leaving his first love......so think how much he loves ur friend to choose her over his first love...
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Old 03-15-2006, 02:54 AM
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I don't think we can really trust someone especially a guy who denies his relationship with others. Maybe he has something to hide. As for his reasoning, I don't think the gravity of love has anything to do with being first love.
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Old 03-20-2006, 11:52 PM
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If your friend doubts his sincerity she should get out of the relationship. Sometimes guys just have a way of talking so they can get what they want from women.
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Old 03-25-2006, 02:40 AM
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Yeah, she has to be sure if he really loves her. Anyway, I don't think she should it's healthy for her to keep on doubting her boyfriend, it's either she trusts him or not.
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Old 04-25-2006, 09:15 AM
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first choice is always remembered that doesnt mean others are not loved it depends on the kind of person you are
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Old 06-08-2006, 07:45 AM
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if i was your friend i would tell her man that she has to stop seeing this other girl! or its only going to put strain on the relationship!
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Old 06-15-2006, 10:37 PM
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I agree. He has to assure her that he loves her. Words are not enough sometimes.
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