I agree that she should not get involved, especially if it is HIS money that he is giving to his children. They are his, and he does have a responsibility to them, after all, even if they're not your friends'.

if his chldren realy need the money now then it is fine...but if they are asking it unnecessarily then she can just suggest about it to him in a soft manner...but its a difficult situation and it shud be handled with care.....

I don't think she could stop him, but she has to make him realize that not paying their bills is hurting their marriage and their life together. I wonder if she has money of her own? They have to come up with a budget wherein all their bills get paid first, before he gives money to the free-loading sons.

Well his husband wants to help his children thats normal but now that they are big they have to be independant .... her husband has a life too and he can`t give money to his children when he knows that he will be in trouble at the end of the month... His children can`t depend of their dad like that ... They have to learn what are life problems and learn how to solved them... she has to talk to her husband and make him realise that they are having bills problem because of his children ...

I'm sure it's not easy for the father to know that his childrens got some financial problems, but in one way he should talk to them about his own problems too...otherwise everybody will be in the same situation and there will be no more money!!They can try to find another job and be independant!! i think she should talk to her husband...

yeah i agree! how can they be forceed to give the kids money still! they should be working and providing for themselves. i would put my foot down if i where them!