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03-11-2006, 04:31 PM
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My husband and my father are always at loggerheads.
They cannot stand each other's opinions.They in turn donot agree with each others and continue with the arguements till we donot leave my father's house. After we return, my husband starts a fresh quarrel with me on why my father doesnt show any reverence to him. Our life becomes miserable for a week or so. But at every possible point, my husband has always to say that my dad is wrong in every matter. I dont know how to get out of this mess! My dad says my husband has not matured enough. I have asked him to keep his opinions with himself and not to let out when my husband is around. But my dad doesnt listen at all. My dad wants to prove that I had made a wrong choice of husband. It is acutally an ego clash. How should I deal with this? I try not to bring in any topic of discussion that would make them argue. I dont know how both of them find a reason to argue out of nothing! 
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03-11-2006, 11:25 PM
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Sometimes this is because fathers feel that their daughters are taken away from them by the husbands. Maybe you should just make your dad feel that you are still his daughter, who loves him and appreciates him. Try asking him not to start or make arguments with your husband. As for yur husband, maybe you could ask him to avoid arguing with your dad. Try not to leave them alone and put a stop to every argument when they are just beginning.
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03-12-2006, 07:33 AM
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passate,
The easiest thing to do in this situation would be to find something they both agree on, or have similar opinions of, and bring it up. Try to moderate their discussion with questions and comments that steer them away from argueing with each other. If they find they have something in common...they may not clash as much, cochise
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03-12-2006, 02:16 PM
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I find the common thing between them if their inflated ego.
My dad doesnt like to hear any difference in opinion or any answer as no. We as kids didnt dare to say him no, we were brought up as obedient kids. I now realize how mom might have cleverly managed not to have an ego clash.
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03-13-2006, 02:47 AM
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What you can do I think is to tell each of them how you feel. Maybe they haven't realized that they are putting you in the middle. If they do, maybe they will try not to have arguments anymore even if they have different opinions on things.
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03-14-2006, 10:39 PM
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Don't leave them alone in a room. Talk to each one of them and tell them what they're doing to you. If they truly disagree about each's opinion, tell them to respect each other's opinion and have a good natured discussion, not a heated argument.
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03-17-2006, 06:32 AM
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its really a difficult task now to make both understand better try to avoid both off them together
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03-17-2006, 04:26 PM
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Itys hard but the next time your in a room with both of them. Start yelling at them and show them whose being immature and tell them you dont want to be in the middle and to stop the childish behaviors. Make sure they know you dont want ot hear it whatever they argue about, to keep you out!!!
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03-19-2006, 07:46 AM
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My dad has a feeling that his son in law should also abide by what he orders. One cannot expect all and sundry to be what one thinks....
I think, things will get alright with time....
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