This is really hard because adult children has their own mind already and their hearts are sometimes harder to crack. I guess what he can do is to continue showing him his love. Maybe one day a miracle will just happen. If it does not then at least he was able to show his son that he loves him.

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in cases like this, i think all the dad can do is try...it is up to the son to accept the efforts of his dad...just keep on trying, it may hurt if the son doesn't show his appreciation but it is better to have shown love to him than making the son think that his dad doesn't care about him...

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suzy,

If the dad wants to be closer to his son he is now going to have to take an interest in the same things his son enjoys. This situation really depends on whether or not the son wants to be close to his dad, in a lot of situations the son may have already made up his mind. In that case it is extremely hard to change his opinion. But like others have said, the father should continue to try,

cochise

Trying wouldn't hurt. Well, it hurts if the son refuses. What I mean is as a dad you just have to show your love whether or not it is reciprocated.

He should try to explain to his son what had happened between him and his ex. He might just listen and come to understand him more then later love him.

Buyign him things are a no-no...if he wants to see his love that is all he should give him....not materialistic things and maybe he should take him out to dinner to talk and tell him how much he misses him and wants to be a big part of his life...maybe his mother brainwashed the son against his father and he believes tha "stories" told. People become very vengeful when they are goign thru a divorce and i think the ones who involved the children and brainwash them against their own parent are really sick int he head...children suffer the most thru divorce...partners move on and some pretty quickly but its the children that are hurt for a long time.....

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difficult situation ...it is difficult for a grown up kid to change his mind.....but nothing is impossible...its better to have hope and keep trying...coz at times coz of continous trials things work out...got to deal the situation with patience.......

All he can do is try and the rest is up to the son. As a father it is his duty of be there for his son. Even if it may seem a little late, he can still be a dad by reaching out to him.

i think son is not able to digest his fathers marriage to calm him better take him for a vacation and try to get closer

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